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DonRedwood

(4,359 posts)
27. Hi Melinda~~
Tue Oct 30, 2012, 10:15 PM
Oct 2012

Such a powerful story you shared and each post that responds to it only makes things more moving.

My mother recently broke down in tears and told me my older brother is only my half-brother. She was raped while my parents were dating and became pregnant. My father married her even though they had not yet had sex. He raised my older brother as his own but it seemed there always was something "off".

When my mother tearfully admitted to all this she swore me to secrecy. She forbid me to ever tell my brother so now I get to carry the weight of the knowledge. My dad is gone so just my mother and I know.

I told myself it doesn't matter but the other day I realized I had made plans for all my father's family heirlooms to go to my cousins instead of my brother's kids. (But they get all of the heirlooms from my mom).

Thank you for sharing what you shared. It helps me to understand my mother and what she is going through better.

Peace.

Thank you for sharing this, Melinda... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #1
Oh Peggy, this is one of the most difficult things I've ever done in my life... Melinda Oct 2012 #3
... CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2012 #4
Oh my God ismnotwasm Oct 2012 #24
Very powerful, very dark, and very courageous.. Permanut Oct 2012 #2
Thank you Permanut. I centered my life on my son, thinking that I could make something beautiful... Melinda Oct 2012 #5
... Permanut Oct 2012 #6
Oh Melinda sheshe2 Oct 2012 #7
sheshe, you're a lovely soul, thank you. Melinda Oct 2012 #15
So let's send the GOP back into the darkness where they belong! sheshe2 Oct 2012 #16
Thank you for posting this Melinda. Very powerful indeed. I admire and deeply respect your strength. anneboleyn Oct 2012 #28
Thank you for sharing. Behind the Aegis Oct 2012 #8
I struggled for years about sharing the circumstances of his conception with my son... Melinda Oct 2012 #17
wow. how incredibly powerful... powerfully sad, powerfully persuasive, powerfully real renate Oct 2012 #9
I've only recently become acquainted with John Scalzi's writings... Melinda Oct 2012 #18
I can't begin to understand how your experience affected you... bluesbassman Oct 2012 #10
It may sound perverse, in that I wish all men could understand how sexual violence Melinda Oct 2012 #21
No, not perverse. The world would be a much different place if more men understood. bluesbassman Oct 2012 #22
***tears*** Melinda Oct 2012 #23
I have often wondered... davidthegnome Oct 2012 #11
David, thank you. Melinda Nov 2012 #31
"I like to remind them how little control they have." Spitfire of ATJ Oct 2012 #12
Thank you for sharing this azurnoir Oct 2012 #13
Thank you, azunoir. Melinda Nov 2012 #33
Wow, Melinda, it must have taken a lot of strength for you to write that. Zalatix Oct 2012 #14
I think I could be a case study for PTSD, Zalatix. Melinda Nov 2012 #34
I've said it before and I'll say it again: I really think the people who are trying to justify rape. Initech Oct 2012 #19
That's an interesting posit. Melinda Nov 2012 #35
Posted to BuzzFlash WilliamPitt Oct 2012 #20
Thank you for sharing Scalzi's writing, Will. You ensure a far greater viewing than I ever could. Melinda Nov 2012 #36
Reading that was like a punch to the chest. lilithsrevenge12 Oct 2012 #25
Thank you lilithsrevenge. Melinda Nov 2012 #37
A friend wondered if the R's were going for the rapists' vote duhneece Oct 2012 #26
Hi Melinda~~ DonRedwood Oct 2012 #27
To everyone who has replied to me so far... Melinda Oct 2012 #29
You are such a Lovely woman! Caretha Oct 2012 #30
Kicking, reccing, and re-posting on FB for my daughter lapislzi Nov 2012 #32
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