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In reply to the discussion: UPDATE: Today, I will be turning off life support for my father... (He passed away quietly...) [View all]DFW
(54,378 posts)My mom had a strokeluckily while someone else was in her house. She called an ambulance, and my brother who lives nearby (Langley, VA area). My sister was in central NJ and I was in the German Rheinland. When my brother got to the hospital, a surgeon told my brother to decide that instant, not in 5 minutes, if he should operate. My brother asked for a 15 second best case scenario. The surgeon said her brain was already gone, but they could keep her on life support for maybe six months. Our mom had told us all quite specifically NOT to do that. He told the surgeon, who said she had been very wise. My brother called my sister, who drove down from NJ. Then he had his wife, whose English sucks, call my wife, since I was on my way back from somewhere. When I got home, my wife told me to call my brother, as she knew something was bad, but not HOW bad. I called him, and when he said how bad it was, I asked if I should fly over to America the next day. He said no, there was no one left to say good-bye to. So my sister drove down from New Jersey, and they pulled the plug.
No one do id anything wrongit was just her time. It was pretty hard to take, all the same. Nothing I could do but make a few phone calls. It sucked.