Watched a sickening drama unfold at a local grocery store the other evening.

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58. Trauma, secrets, lies, and neglect become transgenerational - add religious fundamentalism and authoritarianism,

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willful ignorance, corporate greed and ageism for good measure, and you have the recipe for despair of many sorts that force people to make bad decisions as they descend into taking what appears to be modern "tough love" but more often descends towards physical abuse which is clearly seen. Emotional abuse, financial abuse, or elderly abuse OTOH goes largely invisible within the household unless it turns criminal. One or the other doesn't leave. Why? Hope was also in Pandora's box of evil troubles. Forgiving but not forgetting the bad decisions and emotional abuse over the years makes lives living Hells of control from the other as a form of "teaching moment." It never works. Death happens to all and is final and sometimes couples so attached ride each other to the grave in a race to the bottom as both agree to always disagree, making or accepting no changes of their circumstances and learning no better ways to function equitably. There's no physical violence, ever, just a constant fear of more of the same "bad luck." Meanwhile, prices of medical care, transportation, and social/digital communications, nutritional foods, and our toxic environments that include our own cultural vices take its toll on our bodies. So, the slippery slope to the end. I'm not a better person for living it still and hope (there's that emotion again) that it didn't do great damage to the kids who you know will have similar kinds of mental challenges but perhaps similar or fixable parental challenges in their journeys. I wish I could forget most of the rest in these contentious times. I know I stayed too long at the fair...my bad?