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In reply to the discussion: Why the "My bad sex wasn't rape" editorial is so utterly, utterly vile. [View all]LiberalLoner
(9,761 posts)I mean I have fantasies I'm ashamed of too. I'm not trying to shame guys for the fantasies they have, I'm trying to say, don't act on them because that causes so much harm. I truly think the defensiveness might be about fantasies. And I want to say fantasies are okay by me, I just don't want the line to be crossed to actual harm, you know?
But what if what that cop said is true? What if its just one of those biological things we wish were not true, but is true?
I look at sexual behavior of animals and what the cop said seems plausible in light of that.
If it is true, how do we reach out to men to convince them not to harm us, or not allow harm to be done to us?
And if it IS true what he said, I can begin to understand the defensiveness and anger Ive seen.