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La Lioness Priyanka

(53,866 posts) Fri Mar 29, 2013, 10:19 AM Mar 2013

When you get really angry at someone do you use the N-word or say Faggot? [View all]

It was implied in the the thread about Sean Penn's son that the paparazzi had it coming. And maybe the paparazzi is annoying, however no matter how mad i am or how much someone else deserved it, i have never used those words as a weapon.

I just assumed non-racist non-homophobic people did not.

So when you are angry do you say these words? If you do, do you think its justified because the other person is an asshole?

I decided eventually to spell out faggot, because i dont want people to confuse it with Fuck or something else that is not bigotry-loaded

47 votes, 1 pass \| Time left: Unlimited
	Saying the N-word in anger is ok, so long as the other person deserved it
	0 (0%)
	Saying the word F*****t is ok, so long as the other person deserved it
	0 (0%)
	Saying both these words are ok, so long as the other person deserved it
	0 (0%)
	There are limited circumstances (specify below) where use of these words are appropriate
	1 (2%)
	No one should utter these words as weapons against others, no matter what
	46 (98%)
	1 DU member did not wish to select any of the options provided.
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When you get really angry at someone do you use the N-word or say Faggot? [View all] La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 OP

I use both jollyreaper2112 Mar 2013 #1

I thought you mean Fuck it treestar Mar 2013 #2

You can change your vote. UnrepentantLiberal Mar 2013 #91

Cool treestar Mar 2013 #101

Hey SampleGirl, calling someone a Fa**ot is never okay. nt justiceischeap Mar 2013 #3

Her only post in 3 months is to say that it's ok to call someone a faggot. kestrel91316 Mar 2013 #53

There are so many other choie Mar 2013 #4

It took me a little while HappyMe Mar 2013 #5

When I'm really angry I say nothing. Scuba Mar 2013 #6

I cannot tell you how well this has served me. NCTraveler Mar 2013 #25

Is there a trick to getting the idiots in your life to leave you alone when you're angry? mythology Mar 2013 #117

I get speechless. I guess it's a weakness, but what can I do? I just walk away. dimbear Mar 2013 #136

I don't condone the use of either word. I can understand that someone pushed to the brink madinmaryland Mar 2013 #7

i dont know that i understand being racist because i was pushed to the brink La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #20

Never. And I'd like to add that there are lots of perks to being famous cali Mar 2013 #8

SO fucking true La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #21

43 years old, never uttered either word. vi5 Mar 2013 #9

I'm over 60, and ditto! MotherPetrie Mar 2013 #32

+1 And I wouldn't have anything do to with anyone who did. forestpath Mar 2013 #100

Never. And I can't remember the last time I heard either word pnwmom Mar 2013 #97

Approaching 60 and I've never used them either. Not once. Skidmore Mar 2013 #127

I don't, but hear and see both way too much-- JohnnyLib2 Mar 2013 #10

It's pretty sad that you ask this Trajan Mar 2013 #11

I don't. On the other hand, if someone else is looking for something nasty to call... JVS Mar 2013 #12

honestly, in my life i have only heard someone using the n-word as a insult once La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #14

Plus, using them casually is a sort of practice for heated situations JohnnyLib2 Mar 2013 #24

As a tactic, I think it works rather poorly to use some slurs. The last thing you want to do when... JVS Mar 2013 #29

Since you specified "as weapons" OriginalGeek Mar 2013 #13

i definitely meant as a weapon as opposed to an ingroup honorific La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #16

My wife and I go play cards/games/party with our son and DIL often OriginalGeek Mar 2013 #30

No-- but-- my wife has a good friend JanMichael Mar 2013 #15

because african americans haven't lynched each other using that word La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #18

perfect explanation, thanks Pri! bettyellen Mar 2013 #34

i teach psychology of stereotyping and discrimination La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #49

I think it's okay for AF. Amer. to call each other that name, but no one else. Cleita Mar 2013 #104

I learned to cuss with the best of them when I was in the military magellan Mar 2013 #17

The only times I've ever used those words are in quoting someone else kudzu22 Mar 2013 #19

agreed La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #22

Samplegirl samples: Starry Messenger Mar 2013 #23

Damn- that thread makes me sad. Lots of really good DUers bullwinkle428 Mar 2013 #38

Same here. Starry Messenger Mar 2013 #39

I never use those words. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #26

Never have, never will. UnrepentantLiberal Mar 2013 #27

No. Never. Both of those words leave a bad taste in my mouth. BlueCaliDem Mar 2013 #28

I have, and probably will again, but I know it's wrong. Glaug-Eldare Mar 2013 #31

Maybe I'm the only one? Glaug-Eldare Mar 2013 #99

I find myself more and more using Republican as the ultimate derogatory term. Bandit Mar 2013 #33

The N-word, I've used when discussing the utter inappropriateness Agnosticsherbet Mar 2013 #35

Hate speech of any kind is never okay. LWolf Mar 2013 #36

I have no impulse to use those words loyalsister Mar 2013 #107

I did frequently in my younger and dumber high school days Blue_Tires Mar 2013 #37

Nope, I don't MrScorpio Mar 2013 #40

I usually call someone a fucking asshole when I get pissed off. hobbit709 Mar 2013 #41

Your premise is false. 99Forever Mar 2013 #42

LOL. just saying my premise is false doesnt make it so. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #43

Perhaps not, however... 99Forever Mar 2013 #45

we express out intentions through behavior. its the only way to La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #48

What? 99Forever Mar 2013 #55

i think you have a reading comprehension problem. nt La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #57

A personal insult now? 99Forever Mar 2013 #65

SHE WON THAT ONE Skittles Mar 2013 #122

Those things we say in the heat of the moment aptly illustrate both who we are LanternWaste Mar 2013 #93

WTF Skittles Mar 2013 #103

If only everyone was just like you! 99Forever Mar 2013 #108

non-racists and non-homophobes ARE like me Skittles Mar 2013 #115

You truly are awesome! 99Forever Mar 2013 #120

MOST stalked people do not resort to RACISM AND HOMOPHOBIA!!!! Skittles Mar 2013 #121

Really? 99Forever Mar 2013 #123

yeah, OK Skittles Mar 2013 #125

Oh noes! 99Forever Mar 2013 #126

what are you talking about? false premise? orleans Mar 2013 #143

This is the premise: 99Forever Mar 2013 #147

meh! Mr Dixon Mar 2013 #44

Never.... Tikki Mar 2013 #46

When I'm really angry I just use G'damned A-hole. It's non specific. Myrina Mar 2013 #47

I'm a hot head and when I get angry, I will speak out. Sheepshank Mar 2013 #50

What?! People who use either word when angry have racism and homophobia in their heart Politicub Mar 2013 #51

that's exactly what i think La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #59

Those two words are never Sissyk Mar 2013 #52

I will confess to having muttered the N word under my kestrel91316 Mar 2013 #54

are you black? La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #58

Really? Number23 Mar 2013 #134

that was almost exactly what i was going to write (i was going to La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #135

Exactly. I was hoping the poster would have an answer by now, but I guess not. Number23 Mar 2013 #141

Sorry I did not read it right........... samplegirl Mar 2013 #56

A genuine question regarding the use of "Faggot" StrongBad Mar 2013 #60

yes, it's still wrong because the underlying assumption is still homophobic La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #62

Fair points StrongBad Mar 2013 #76

my answer to that is i am not sure. really. i am not sure how i feel about it. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #77

I still think it and then realize that it is wrong LiberalFighter Mar 2013 #61

there are thousands of insults that are not race based or bigotry based La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #64

DU is the only place i hear/see those words used. RC Mar 2013 #63

I use the N-word LittleBlue Mar 2013 #66

I have a hard time sayin them in my head . olddots Mar 2013 #67

Nope, I never even think them in my head. Beacool Mar 2013 #68

No. I prefer calling them assholes. Cleita Mar 2013 #69

there were five people who said it was ok to use those words in limited circumstances fizzgig Mar 2013 #70

Hell no. Apophis Mar 2013 #71

Not okay. Lizzie Poppet Mar 2013 #72

I Say Neither RobinA Mar 2013 #73

Back in the days of lynching and gay bashing (actual bashing not insults) Kalidurga Mar 2013 #132

The thing is this: it is incredibly common to hear vicious, casual homophobia from actual adult Bluenorthwest Mar 2013 #74

which is why i think the faggot part of that encounter didnt shock me as much as the use La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #75

People sure as fuck think the one is acceptable, and once you accept the one, the rest will follow. Bluenorthwest Mar 2013 #79

there was a lot of defense of hopper on that thread because apparently the paparazzi deserved it La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #80

There's never an excuse for bad manners n/t aristocles Mar 2013 #78

Never used N word but iffy on F word. edbermac Mar 2013 #81

Sissy as a basis for f*ggot is still homophobic FreeState Mar 2013 #112

True, good point. edbermac Mar 2013 #116

i think some of this is regional arely staircase Mar 2013 #140

Yep. Those type words hit two birds with one stone, gays & women. Many hate us both. Little Star Mar 2013 #148

I only use the N word when quoting Chris Rock. cbdo2007 Mar 2013 #82

My nasty-knob goes to 11! backscatter712 Mar 2013 #83

me too. i am fine with insults just not bigotry La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #85

How about the DU posters whom "hate old white guys"? just1voice Mar 2013 #84

dude, you can pretend as much as you want that we live in ahistoric acontextual world La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #86

Which specific word is hateful, "old", "white" or "guys"? LanternWaste Mar 2013 #96

I've never used either word in my life and I was born in 1949 aint_no_life_nowhere Mar 2013 #87

There have been times, when really provoked, where I have likely uttered something vile, but... av8rdave Mar 2013 #88

This message was self-deleted by its author devilgrrl Mar 2013 #89

That is never okay. dawg Mar 2013 #90

I can't say I never have, but it's been decades. bluedigger Mar 2013 #92

that's fair La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #94

No, I prefer "dumbass" get the red out Mar 2013 #95

I get angry when I hear someone use those horrible, hurtful words. David Zephyr Mar 2013 #98

Nope, never. I don't shoot them either. Squinch Mar 2013 #102

the n word offends me arely staircase Mar 2013 #105

No, but I do curse them using ancient and strange quinnox Mar 2013 #106

I seldom get really angry tularetom Mar 2013 #109

No, and that's never even crossed my mind. n/t Lil Missy Mar 2013 #110

thats part of my point. without underlying bias, why would these words cross your mind La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #111

I'm curious what your conclusion is about people like me. Glaug-Eldare Mar 2013 #113

what does bad mean? are you generally bad? how should i know? La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #118

You forgot the "NO! HELL NO!" selection. Matariki Mar 2013 #114

Never. Not even in private. Courtesy Flush Mar 2013 #119

I have a filthy mouth .... etherealtruth Mar 2013 #124

I just say 'dumbass.' wyldwolf Mar 2013 #128

I do not. Iggo Mar 2013 #129

yeah, i get the thing about f-word which is why when he said it La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #131

I don't use those words because they're low class, tacky words Warpy Mar 2013 #130

I grew up in Oak Park Illinois (very liberal,jewish,polish,irish,hispanic,asian ect...) 4 t 4 Mar 2013 #133

My later childhood was spent in Dixie. Warpy Mar 2013 #137

When words like those are used in anger/as a weapon, it IS the very definition of a slur. Jamastiene Mar 2013 #138

"They're only words. It's the context that counts. It's the intention behind the words that makes arely staircase Mar 2013 #139

That never occurs to me Mira Mar 2013 #142

agreed. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2013 #150

It is NEVER "O.K" to use those words DiverDave Mar 2013 #144

The sign of true rage Prism Mar 2013 #145

No, never. PotatoChip Mar 2013 #146

No, never, along with Bi*ch, Wh**e, Sl*t, etc. n/t Little Star Mar 2013 #149

Their was a day when I use the F-word as applied to gay men but I don't brewens Mar 2013 #151

When I Swear At People, I'm Likely To Say Something Else Vogon_Glory Mar 2013 #152

No I say FUCK! Rex Mar 2013 #153