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Showing Original Post only (View all)Victim-blaming and woman-shaming claim another victim [View all]
No, I won't say s***-shaming. Bcause there's no such thing as a s***.
This rape culture, where women are shamed for behavior that in men is met with a wink and a nod and even respect, has claimed another life. Please don't try to tell me that terms like 'playa' or 'man-whore' carry the same scorn in the same way that the words targeting women do. Just the fact that its necessary to put the word 'man' in front of 'whore' to use it about a man tells you all you need to know.
Blaming and shaming women costs lives. Girls and women need to know that they can come forward. That they won't be blamed, or shamed. They need to know someone will listen, and believe them.
Rape Culture Claims Another Victim: Teen Ends Life After Photo Of Her Alleged Gang Rape Goes Viral
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Seventeen-year-old Rehtaeh Parsons suicide was the harrowing end to a story involving not only sexual assault, but also the issues of harassment and victim-blaming that are problematic symptoms of rape culture. According to her mother Leah Parsons post on her Facebook, Rehtaeh was subject to significant bullying from her peers, who labeled her as a slut:
But there were other issues with the investigation as well, Parsons told the Halifax Chronicle Herald: [t]hey didnt even interview the boys until much, much later and nothing was done about [the photos] because they couldnt prove who had pressed the photo button on the phone. She was told that even the distribution of the photos was not really a criminal issue, despite the fact that Rehtaeh was 15 at the time, meaning the photos constituted child pornography.
While the investigation was ongoing, Rehtaeh struggled with anger and depression leading to her hospitalization on one occasion. She also moved to a different city to avoid harassment of her peers, including a barrage of texts asking Will you have sex with me? and telling her Youre such a slut. The Steubenville victim similarly faced harassing text messages after her identity was revealed by news coverage, including threats resulting in charges against two teens.
http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/04/09/1840501/rehtaeh-parsons-rape-culture/
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Seventeen-year-old Rehtaeh Parsons suicide was the harrowing end to a story involving not only sexual assault, but also the issues of harassment and victim-blaming that are problematic symptoms of rape culture. According to her mother Leah Parsons post on her Facebook, Rehtaeh was subject to significant bullying from her peers, who labeled her as a slut:
The (p)erson Rehtaeh once was all changed one dreaded night in November 2011. She went with a friend to anothers home. In that home she was raped by four young boys one of those boys took a photo of her being raped and decided it would be fun to distribute the photo to everyone in Rehtaehs school and community where it quickly went viral. Because the boys already had a slut story, the victim of the rape Rehtaeh was considered a SLUT.
But there were other issues with the investigation as well, Parsons told the Halifax Chronicle Herald: [t]hey didnt even interview the boys until much, much later and nothing was done about [the photos] because they couldnt prove who had pressed the photo button on the phone. She was told that even the distribution of the photos was not really a criminal issue, despite the fact that Rehtaeh was 15 at the time, meaning the photos constituted child pornography.
While the investigation was ongoing, Rehtaeh struggled with anger and depression leading to her hospitalization on one occasion. She also moved to a different city to avoid harassment of her peers, including a barrage of texts asking Will you have sex with me? and telling her Youre such a slut. The Steubenville victim similarly faced harassing text messages after her identity was revealed by news coverage, including threats resulting in charges against two teens.
http://thinkprogress.org/health/2013/04/09/1840501/rehtaeh-parsons-rape-culture/
Link with more information, and a petition demanding an inquiry into the way this case was handled.
http://bellejarblog.wordpress.com/2013/04/09/rehtaeh-parsons/
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apparently this guy is in deep s*** for some remarks he made a few months ago in
niyad
Apr 2013
#127
I'm relieved local news is handling this one a bit better so far, at least
Posteritatis
Apr 2013
#206
They know. They also know they can get away with it. Education won't do it.
TheMadMonk
Apr 2013
#156
looking at the hidden post and yours, one notices that they seem to be identical.
niyad
Apr 2013
#119
Sure, your male friend's define themselves as a s**ts sbecause they are proud
Luminous Animal
Apr 2013
#161
you think this is FUNNY? did it occur to you that some of us will refuse to use a word that is
niyad
Apr 2013
#6
it is spelled out in the article, people often don't spell out things like the N word, F word
JI7
Apr 2013
#9
I'm not in the business of telling people what to think. Because it pisses me off when others
nomorenomore08
Apr 2013
#44
Just a tad bit of compassion for the victim of a gang rape would be a respectable reaction.
Jamastiene
Apr 2013
#41
If an earlier post gets nuked it can look like the person's still posting.
Posteritatis
Apr 2013
#106
I'm sure she is physically capbable of typing it out but she prefers not to.
Luminous Animal
Apr 2013
#55
this gang rape was a "first world problem" and we're just SJWs typing about it all......
bettyellen
Apr 2013
#78
Because as people keep telling us, revealing pictures of girls and women are going to be shared
redqueen
Apr 2013
#7
should be mandatory for schools to report to the local police. colleges sure don't.
bettyellen
Apr 2013
#75
And every. Single. Fucking. Time. People pile on to blame the victim. It's infuriating. (nt)
Posteritatis
Apr 2013
#27
They want to believe it can't happen to them. Or to the women in their lives, if they're male.
nomorenomore08
Apr 2013
#30
I find it telling that a lot of local news sites disabled comments on articles about this. (nt)
Posteritatis
Apr 2013
#52
"...and anything touching on bullying or most forms of rape draw them like flies..."
nomorenomore08
Apr 2013
#95
My response: "Yeah, all that bullying turned you into a fine human being. I can really tell."
nomorenomore08
Apr 2013
#111
I think of it almost like separating the "wheat" from the "chaff." The "worthy" from the "unworthy."
nomorenomore08
Apr 2013
#60
And then think of all the kids prosecuted for consensual (albeit underage) "sexting."
nomorenomore08
Apr 2013
#54
Her high school - the second one she went to try to get away from this - is right next to my house.
Posteritatis
Apr 2013
#20
Posteritatis, since you're from the area, I as a lifelong American have some Q's.
alp227
Apr 2013
#151
and absolutely nothing will happen--read what the nova scotia justice minister said (reply #1)
niyad
Apr 2013
#94
All those euphemisms only mean one thing. 'Boys will be boys. Think of their careers!'
freshwest
Apr 2013
#96
tears baby. i am just in tears. i wish... so wish, there were people to stand up for you, loudly.
seabeyond
Apr 2013
#123
Why do you think her rapists took a picture and shared it? Because they thought she'd be pleased?
redqueen
Apr 2013
#178
Your inability to comprehend the English language is bordering on frothing hysteria.
IdaBriggs
Apr 2013
#185
Did I act like the world is going to end? I would like more solidarity among women.
redqueen
Apr 2013
#189
i tried to find the article of a 12 yr old that committed suicide for being called a slut, and she
seabeyond
Apr 2013
#207
Because those are the terms people are using to describe what happened to this girl.
redqueen
Apr 2013
#210
The all pervasive objectification and sexualization of girls/women is primary to creating
Zorra
Apr 2013
#195
Ugh! This makes me physically ill. I am sick to my stomach after reading this.
smirkymonkey
Apr 2013
#222