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In reply to the discussion: Victim-blaming and woman-shaming claim another victim [View all]IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)We are in agreement that NO ONE DESERVES TO BE RAPED. Why are you posting as if I disagree with that?
Consensual Sex is NOT RAPE.
Non-Consensual Sex IS RAPE.
This seems pretty obvious, and "slut-hood" (or the lack thereof) has *NOTHING* to do with this issue, so why you continue to conflate it is beyond me.
Your OPINION that the common usage definition of "SLUT" isn't REAL - despite the fact it is in the dictionary, and has been used since the 15th century - is ridiculous.
While you might believe that "NOBODYELSE'SFUCKINGBUSINESS" is the correct answer, like it or not, there are "community standards" about appropriate sexual behavior; these vary by community and social group. Generally they are "keep it private/not on the public bus" but these norms (which have been evolving/changing) still have power, but in this case they do NOT apply because she was RAPED (which is not the same thing as consensual sex).
Smart people usually choose to keep their noses out of other people's sex lives, but generally have agreements as to acceptable behavior with their partner(s). This discussion could go on longer, but since the key word is, was and always will be "CONSENSUAL" and the case we are discussing is specifically about a RAPE (by definition, non-consensual), conflating it with "slut shaming" sounds ... ignorant.
NO ONE kills themselves because someone else said something "mean" - especially when it is untrue. She wasn't a slut. She was a crime victim, and she didn't deserve it.
There really doesn't seem to be a point continuing with you because you just seem like you want to jump up and down insisting she was "slut shamed to death" which multiple years of working with rape victims and suicide prevention tells me is ludicrous.
It is a message board. You are entitled to your opinion, no matter how wrong it may be.
<== Attempt to restore humor because you can say the same thing back at me!
Your mileage may vary. Good luck with this thread - I don't think you are winning any converts.