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In reply to the discussion: FFS people. The world is not the finely tuned binary a lot of you seem to believe... [View all]chervilant
(8,267 posts)is unnecessary, and quite telling. Do you support patriarchy? Sexism?
If our society had a healthy and mature appreciation of our sexuality, if we taught our younglings about responsible sex (eg, birth control and STDs), if we didn't go all medieval about a fourteen year old being sexually active (as *SO* very many are), then the only objection here might be driven by the pervasive homophobia among us.
I was sexually abused as a child. I was not protected by my straight-laced parents, whose puritanical standards rendered any discussion of sex verboten. I didn't escape my abuser until I went to college, where my roommate fielded all his calls and 'took messages' that I never had to see.
I never got to choose who gave me my first kiss, my first orgasm -- or *ANY* of my sexual "firsts." I don't feel qualified to assert that fourteen year olds (in general) are mentally, emotionally and physically prepared to be sexually active. However, with parents like mine (and those who push abstinence, and refuse to accept that a fourteen year old would *want* to have sex), that likelihood is slim.
Oh, and, NO means NO. If you're the slightest bit unclear on that issue, perhaps *you* need a "gender studies class."