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In reply to the discussion: With all the anti-pornography talk, can we have a sex positive thread? [View all]Kurska
(5,739 posts)"saying that as long as a woman is happy with her own objectification and acquiesces to the dominant cultural paradigm of gender roles that there's not really anything exploitative about it at all"
A woman engaging in sex on film or otherwise that you PERSONALLY find demeaning, degrading or objectifying is not, in fact, being exploited if she wants to do it and enjoys it.
This is a laughable double standard as well, given gay guys get involved in just as bad of "exploitative" material all the time and I never see anyone claiming that we need to be protected like special little flowers from our exploitative society. You gag, bound and to be vulgar screw a guy who wants to be and it is all good. You do it to a woman and "oh my god that poor woman, won't someone step in and outlaw this perversity" (maybe you don't think this personally, but I've seen it enough on this board to be tired of it). It is sexism masquerading as liberation and I'm sick of seeing it casually floated on this board as acceptable. Her body her choice and she doesn't have to give a rat's behind what you think of it buddy.
And as far as I'm concerned, that is the bottom line. Her body, her choice and you can sit philosophizing about all the horrible cultural stigmas she is playing into, but in end those words aren't worth the breath it takes to speak them. You cross a really clear line when you start telling women how they should feel about how they enjoy their own sexuality.
I'll be sure to tell any and all of my female friends into BDSM (some of which does happen on camera) that a very smart man on the internet told them that they sex they find liberating and enjoyable, is actually using them.