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seabeyond

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63. omg. so, now we do not teach our kids? really. omg. are you a parent? to this day, i am still

Thu Dec 12, 2013, 09:50 AM

Dec 2013

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teaching my kids stuff. age appropriate over every stage in life. i am still learning lesson. how absurd this conversation has become. you are suggesting we not teach our little kids boundaries? cause i gotta tell you. they NEED parents to give them boundaries. they NEED that guidance. they beg us to teach them.

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School drops sexual harassment claim against 6-year-old [View all] Ichingcarpenter Dec 2013 OP

Indeed. Egalitarian Thug Dec 2013 #1

Sense or proportion is nil Puzzledtraveller Dec 2013 #57

shitty parent goes to media JI7 Dec 2013 #2

Huh? PuraVidaDreamin Dec 2013 #3

the kid's shitty mother went to media and lied and said the girl wanted it JI7 Dec 2013 #4

I agree with the School Board's decesion Ichingcarpenter Dec 2013 #5

I agree Dorian Gray Dec 2013 #13

I agree with that gollygee Dec 2013 #27

Shitty knee-jerk school adminisrators expsed as idiots. n/t 99Forever Dec 2013 #23

Idiot people forget about normal childhood development; IdaBriggs Dec 2013 #67

Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #100

Never had I seen anything quite that 16th century malaise Dec 2013 #6

Just to be clear. The girls mother said it was repeated unwanted contact. whttevrr Dec 2013 #83

exactly. and the boy's mother needs to learn that her son is a liar...and he learned magical thyme Dec 2013 #97

Now that the mother let everyone know what happened, KitSileya Dec 2013 #7

You are comparing a kiss Bohunk68 Dec 2013 #8

So many here on DU don't want this kid punished for his behavior KitSileya Dec 2013 #10

Exactly. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #11

Lord in Heaven, 6 years olds are not capable of "sexual harassment"!!!! Bonobo Dec 2013 #9

As I have stated elsewhere, KitSileya Dec 2013 #12

It is NOT sexual harassment. Bonobo Dec 2013 #14

Why stop at mere harassment? Nuclear Unicorn Dec 2013 #16

it was documentation that went in a file. no more or less. no one would see. it was not following seabeyond Dec 2013 #55

Anything less just reinforces the patriarchal rape culture... Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #138

Sad Puzzledtraveller Dec 2013 #48

so EducatorInTraining Dec 2013 #61

he would be kissing the boy because he was boy, would he not? KitSileya Dec 2013 #72

6 year olds can't have sex. They have not gone through puberty. IdaBriggs Dec 2013 #66

that sounds like the kind of think a bureaucrat would say rdking647 Dec 2013 #80

Why the fear of calling his behavior for what it is? KitSileya Dec 2013 #82

the EEOC does not apply here Niceguy1 Dec 2013 #86

they did that. that failed. they talked to parents, that failed. so they took the next step and seabeyond Dec 2013 #89

How about a more generic term-bullying? TexasProgresive Dec 2013 #22

Sounds more reasonable to me. nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #25

butit wuld not have been, if that was the word chosen. there is a clear desire to make this seabeyond Dec 2013 #30

In all seriousness Bonobo Dec 2013 #34

they did not call the kid a sex offender. change the wording for your agenda. and no, not in all seabeyond Dec 2013 #38

Ooops, sorry. "Sexual harasser". Big difference. Bonobo Dec 2013 #45

so what? so the fuck what? putting he repeatedly kissed and touched a girl regardless of being told seabeyond Dec 2013 #60

I'm saying precisely one thing. Try to follow. Bonobo Dec 2013 #62

see... you want to narrowly focus to such a ridiculous point to be able to be outraged. seabeyond Dec 2013 #69

You have to wonder Puzzledtraveller Dec 2013 #51

i guess the flip side would be me wondering at the dismissal of a little girls school environment seabeyond Dec 2013 #58

Yes, they must be taught, lessons, taught, lessons, lessons, lessons, Puzzledtraveller Dec 2013 #59

omg. so, now we do not teach our kids? really. omg. are you a parent? to this day, i am still seabeyond Dec 2013 #63

Or we may simply let them do what they want, when they want, how they want and to whom they want. LanternWaste Dec 2013 #88

Problem: NO ONE ever said anything that could be interpreted said dismissal. Bonobo Dec 2013 #64

this whole fuckin thread is dismissal. not a person is saying, ya... something had to be addressed. seabeyond Dec 2013 #68

The kid wasn't arrested, much less charged with a sex offense. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #70

+1000 SomethingFishy Dec 2013 #91

"This is a boundaries and behavior issue" which the "man hating" group is discussing, whereas the seabeyond Dec 2013 #92

What have you been reading? gollygee Dec 2013 #94

To be fair, I've been frequently drawing rape culture into the discussion. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #110

Yeah boundaries are gollygee Dec 2013 #112

Which section is that? NuclearDem Dec 2013 #111

The unwanted attention can be dealt with gollygee Dec 2013 #17

There's an automatic tendency to think of sexual harassment KitSileya Dec 2013 #20

Wow! Yesterday you were equating this to "hitting." Now it's "killing"? lightcameron Dec 2013 #28

I am not equating it with killing. KitSileya Dec 2013 #35

It is exactly the same as arresting a 6 year old for making his finger into a gun and pointing it. Bonobo Dec 2013 #15

If the child had reached puberty Ichingcarpenter Dec 2013 #19

no arrest. no kid was arrested. it is not even kinda the same, let alone exactly seabeyond Dec 2013 #31

Yes, the mentality is precisely the same. nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #37

see. you said exactly the same as an arrest. it is not. so now you say mentality. it is not. seabeyond Dec 2013 #40

LOL Bonobo Dec 2013 #50

no. it is not an overreaction to tell the kid to quit kissing the girl. then to tell the parent seabeyond Dec 2013 #65

OK. You DON'T think calling him a sexual predator is an exaggeration. Got it. nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #74

again...false statement for agenda. nowhere was he called, referred to, or implied to be a sexual seabeyond Dec 2013 #84

What do YOU call someone who commits "sexual harassment", Sea? nt Bonobo Dec 2013 #85

Guess it depends if they do over and over again, regardless of being told not to, and regardless of LanternWaste Dec 2013 #90

Is that the only song you know? U4ikLefty Dec 2013 #137

This isn't the same as an arrest. The boy needs to be taught this behavior isn't okay. Dash87 Dec 2013 #93

Yes, he's a little predator... Lancero Dec 2013 #18

I wonder if the psychologist knew the full circumstances? KitSileya Dec 2013 #21

A kiss on the hand... Lancero Dec 2013 #24

He kissed her on the hand. This time. KitSileya Dec 2013 #26

"Unwanted history of behavior, such as roughhousing..." Lancero Dec 2013 #29

and this mentality would be you failing your child teaching him boundaries so he could be successful seabeyond Dec 2013 #36

Learning how to roughhouse without letting it reach the stage of a severe fight Bonobo Dec 2013 #43

not in school. there is a time and place and not in school. and girls, too, enjoy roughhousing. seabeyond Dec 2013 #49

Ha you and I posted the "time and place" thing at the same time n/t gollygee Dec 2013 #54

Of course in school. Bonobo Dec 2013 #56

whatever bonobo. you know, i am all over on this boys side. spending so much time in the system, seabeyond Dec 2013 #71

Yeah, whatever indeed. Bonobo Dec 2013 #76

You aren't accused of doing it. KitSileya Dec 2013 #75

So you would wait untila dog was full grown before teaching him not to bite? KitSileya Dec 2013 #41

Hardely. Lancero Dec 2013 #77

I don't see how working with his family KitSileya Dec 2013 #81

I think that's a "time and place" thing gollygee Dec 2013 #53

first step talking to and time out adn discussing with parent. next... in school detention seabeyond Dec 2013 #73

he is a kid whose parents refused to teach him boundaries. no more or less. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #32

A kid... Lancero Dec 2013 #79

you have to fabricate an argument to be able to argue. i am well aware what is normal. many of my seabeyond Dec 2013 #87

It's ridiculous that a child this young was charged Penicilino Dec 2013 #33

Then it is good that he wasn't charged, then. KitSileya Dec 2013 #39

state the crime the child was charged with/ i anxiously await your answer so i can so fuckin' be on seabeyond Dec 2013 #44

Little boys have to learn they can't touch or kiss little girls if little girls say stop, or no. Demit Dec 2013 #42

It was obvious EducatorInTraining Dec 2013 #46

Good post, welcome to DU. Agschmid Dec 2013 #136

Yes, time to move on Capt. Obvious Dec 2013 #47

If my children were in this school 1awake Dec 2013 #52

Good. maddezmom Dec 2013 #78

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2013 #95

wow. you really did a back flip to push your agenda. first couple sentences tell me how anything seabeyond Dec 2013 #96

jury voted "boys who want to pretend to be girls" was within community standards. geek tragedy Dec 2013 #120

i personally thought it would be an easy hide seabeyond Dec 2013 #122

Note to Juror #2 gollygee Dec 2013 #123

You're not confused at all, but you are transparent. cyberswede Dec 2013 #98

You seem to grossly understate your confusion. uppityperson Dec 2013 #99

An apples-to-orange oversimplification. arcane1 Dec 2013 #104

Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #113

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2013 #116

Ugh. nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #118

This message was self-deleted by its author uppityperson Dec 2013 #127

MIRT nap. nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #129

Without a hide, it can take a bit to pull the gang together to get banning done. Sure wish the post uppityperson Dec 2013 #131

LOL - and a new slang term is born! cyberswede Dec 2013 #135

Thank you MIRT! nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #130

You're a lot more than "a little confused" n/t LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #114

A jury apparently voted 3-3 to keep this gollygee Dec 2013 #117

i posted it above. seabeyond Dec 2013 #124

Yeah I just saw it gollygee Dec 2013 #125

"wants to play dress up" gollygee Dec 2013 #119

he had me at "boys who want to pretend to be girls" nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #126

Yep gollygee Dec 2013 #128

i stopped reading at the bathroom issue. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #132

This was totally botched. A private meeting with the boy's parents, teacher, and duffyduff Dec 2013 #101

the school took a number of steps before reaching this point. the mother was not receptive. seabeyond Dec 2013 #106

The district botched it. Period. You don't take a draconian action like this and duffyduff Dec 2013 #108

i do nto agree. i do not agree it was draconian. they took the normal steps. talk, time out, seabeyond Dec 2013 #109

Sick & tired of the sexualizing of childhood, children, and childhood behavior. yodermon Dec 2013 #102

Glad to see sanity won out in Colorado 1000words Dec 2013 #103

Here at DU, however ... too many men believe it is merely.... boys will be boys seabeyond Dec 2013 #107

Time, actually past time, to teach this little boy historylovr Dec 2013 #105

Exactly right. Something is wrong when a little boy DevonRex Dec 2013 #115

Good. This never made much sense LittleBlue Dec 2013 #121

IMO, just drop the 'sex' part. Maybe have a district wide program on bullying. Rex Dec 2013 #133

Sexual harassment is a crime Calista241 Dec 2013 #134