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In reply to the discussion: So why exactly is "tone" or "approach" more important than actual issues that affect us all? [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)all. the few times i do it, i am inevitably wrong and remind self.... self, no assumptions. ask. i like people asking. i ask. it keeps things clean.
i can generally agree with what you are posting. we have been discussing and arguing with the same people for the last two years. we know each other. we know the digs, subtle or not. we know what will be allowed or not. a lot of this is not a mystery.
maybe it was you, i do not remember, but yes. yesterday there was a conversation that even with a misstep came clarity.
that was fun, because we both sat back and listened to one another.
i think that is much more vital than the whole tone thing. because tone is an assumption. where as sitting back listening allows openness and an ability to connect. it was refreshing at the end of conversation to say, thank you. whether in agreement or not, it doesnt matter. the more fun, was having a conversation with two people listening to each other respectfully.
that is my aim. i use different means at reaching this with different people. sometimes i feel a bluntness is needed to open doors. but i do like trying different methods to get to that open conversation. staying fluid in conversation.
and see, you were fun in this conversation. allowed me to explore conversation and communication
that is the plus for me.