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In reply to the discussion: Stripping away the distracting BS, this is what it all boils down to. (In my opinion.) [View all]llmart
(15,539 posts)However, there are still many, many people who can have a tragedy befall them and still they don't change. That was the story of my ex. I stayed and stayed thinking that someday if he had to face a serious health problem or financial challenge he would finally "get it" and realize that his pursuit of happiness through buying stuff didn't work. Then as he got older he had some minor health problems, then a major one and still he didn't change. In fact, he got worse as far as his treatment of me.
So, no, I am more realistic now that I'm older in thinking that more people will realize the futility of the way they waste this life they're given. Now I am more likely to think that people mostly just stay the same and if anything, get worse. Frankly, I think those of us who never got into the vicious circle of conspicuous consumption won't have as difficult a time living a lesser lifestyle if and when we have to.
By the way, sorry for your mother. Leaving was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make, but I'm much more at peace and content with my life now.