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calimary

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87. Men have a somewhat easier time, although looks matter on men, as well.

Reply to yeoman6987 (Reply #20)

Tue Mar 4, 2014, 04:35 PM

Mar 2014

But mostly, they get away with flimsy-in-the-looks if they're male. If you're female, on the other hand, you're SUNK.

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The #1 privilege is being pretty... [View all] snooper2 Mar 2014 OP

I would say 'attractive', but it is certainly true. alittlelark Mar 2014 #1

I think 'attractive' is much closer to the mark than 'pretty'. Aristus Mar 2014 #5

Cute vs Pretty. (NewsRadio clip) reformist2 Mar 2014 #57

You are right. Demobrat Mar 2014 #2

Is it still privilege if you earn it...? Lost_Count Mar 2014 #157

Not sure how great beauty is earned Demobrat Mar 2014 #164

It is A privilege gollygee Mar 2014 #3

+1 redqueen Mar 2014 #6

I'm talking as a general rule of thumb snooper2 Mar 2014 #16

Mitch McConnell looks like a fucking turtle but he still made it to the Senate yeoman6987 Mar 2014 #20

Men have a somewhat easier time, although looks matter on men, as well. calimary Mar 2014 #87

I think as a general rule of thumb gollygee Mar 2014 #33

Could you answer the question I posed to redqueen in post #19 snooper2 Mar 2014 #38

That isn't just pretty privilege at play gollygee Mar 2014 #41

I would rather be an attractive black man snooper2 Mar 2014 #43

That doesn't change the fact that gollygee Mar 2014 #47

Are you white? treestar Mar 2014 #52

I'm actually red right now snooper2 Mar 2014 #55

I too am white and would rather look like that woman in your photo treestar Mar 2014 #63

No the same brain is not part of the deal BainsBane Mar 2014 #141

I think that might... 3catwoman3 Mar 2014 #70

I doubt it BainsBane Mar 2014 #140

*sigh* ismnotwasm Mar 2014 #40

. MO_Moderate Mar 2014 #25

+1 bravenak Mar 2014 #79

Can I ask you this? notadmblnd Mar 2014 #82

It's just a sad thought that he would need to have a bible and a suit to not get shot. bravenak Mar 2014 #88

Well take the bible out of his hand and put in library books notadmblnd Mar 2014 #95

Yes I do think he would have been able to convince that jury. bravenak Mar 2014 #99

You know, when my husband was alive, I wouldn't travel to the South with him notadmblnd Mar 2014 #104

Are you an interracial couple? bravenak Mar 2014 #112

Yes. For the most part we never had problems notadmblnd Mar 2014 #118

It's a normal part of life. bravenak Mar 2014 #122

I suspect he might very well have been able to gollygee Mar 2014 #106

I never even considered the pimp Angle. bravenak Mar 2014 #113

Message auto-removed Name removed Mar 2014 #158

I feel sure that I could have walked down the street not dressed in a hoodie gollygee Mar 2014 #93

No, I wasn't suggesting it. notadmblnd Mar 2014 #100

I almost never dress up gollygee Mar 2014 #103

God help you if you are an ugly girl Orrex Mar 2014 #4

Yeah pretty can be a double edged sword gollygee Mar 2014 #7

Hmm . . . JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #8

it isn't about you comparing yourself with others. it's about others comparing you with others. magical thyme Mar 2014 #94

Yeah JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #98

People rarely see their own privilege... Demo_Chris Mar 2014 #123

if you're too beautiful it can work almost in reverse magical thyme Mar 2014 #135

Now that makes me feel bad for you JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #163

Hey... redqueen Mar 2014 #166

It's proven to be human nature, in general. 1000words Mar 2014 #9

You're right. Why do we define beauty if not to use that definition to some extent? randome Mar 2014 #23

No,it's not. If it were our government sufrommich Mar 2014 #10

Precisely. redqueen Mar 2014 #13

Would you rather be born and grow up looking like snooper2 Mar 2014 #19

That's the rub. LiberalAndProud Mar 2014 #53

If that guy shaved the hair on his head to the skin, and did a lot bullwinkle428 Mar 2014 #73

or this? ChazII Mar 2014 #145

if the white guy cleaned up like the woman and wore professional clothing like her JI7 Mar 2014 #150

...and rich [n/t] Maedhros Mar 2014 #89

And this post completely crushes the entire OP KitSileya Mar 2014 #156

Agreed LittleBlue Mar 2014 #11

Agreed Boom Sound 416 Mar 2014 #12

Nope. Wealth can buy and sell pretty. Orsino Mar 2014 #14

+1000. Well stated. nt adirondacker Mar 2014 #28

I've come to the conclusion that those sufrommich Mar 2014 #31

To be fair, most of us never come into direct contact with great wealth. Orsino Mar 2014 #35

It's time to play Nuclear Unicorn Mar 2014 #45

Well, that was disgusting [n/t] Maedhros Mar 2014 #91

+11 treestar Mar 2014 #46

No, it is wealth and I have no idea why anyone argues anything else TheKentuckian Mar 2014 #15

I agree, wealth #1, Attractiveness #2. nt stevenleser Mar 2014 #58

I'm trashing this thread. TeamPooka Mar 2014 #17

Thanks! This is a first for me I think! snooper2 Mar 2014 #21

I apologize to everyone for being so attractive. I just can't help it. FSogol Mar 2014 #18

Definitely #1 MO_Moderate Mar 2014 #22

Hasn't worked for me... 1awake Mar 2014 #24

I spent two years getting in shape and eating much healthier. tridim Mar 2014 #26

+10 Cleita Mar 2014 #27

Teachers Give Better Grades to More Attractive Students: Study Hissyspit Mar 2014 #32

That's not a shock Dorian Gray Mar 2014 #114

There's some element of that, true, but treestar Mar 2014 #51

Except I have no gym membership, no plastic surgery, take no pharmaceuticals and wear no makeup. tridim Mar 2014 #54

There are some people who can't look better no matter how hard treestar Mar 2014 #61

Totally disagree. Think positive! tridim Mar 2014 #64

I think that's almost true Prophet 451 Mar 2014 #29

#1 is wealth, #2 is pretty. Waiting For Everyman Mar 2014 #30

Study Finds Attractive People Earn More At Work Hissyspit Mar 2014 #34

It also helps to be tall Mosby Mar 2014 #42

Number one is white privilege ismnotwasm Mar 2014 #36

Attractive People Are Simply More Successful Hissyspit Mar 2014 #37

Who has more power? justiceischeap Mar 2014 #39

Depends on the goal 1000words Mar 2014 #44

Disagree in that money treestar Mar 2014 #48

"perception of attractiveness enhances the attribution of stereotypical sex characteristics" zazen Mar 2014 #49

Nah, #1 Privilege is and always is RICH. Xyzse Mar 2014 #50

You may indeed be full of shit Aldo Leopold Mar 2014 #56

Well, my wife says I have a nice ass snooper2 Mar 2014 #60

OK, go ahead, rub your "nice ass privilege" in the faces of the rest of us. Nye Bevan Mar 2014 #72

LOLs! Aldo Leopold Mar 2014 #107

...lucky... Aldo Leopold Mar 2014 #111

Harrison Bergeron? FUCK, dude, I thought they shot you! 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #59

You may be right, but one caveat can be pointed out bluestateguy Mar 2014 #62

attractiveness is a privilege, and what we consider attractive is what is a european standard La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2014 #65

+1 gollygee Mar 2014 #66

Thank you ismnotwasm Mar 2014 #67

Bullshit. LiberalAndProud Mar 2014 #68

I was sitting in a coffee shop a few months ago bluestateguy Mar 2014 #69

No gentleman he. MineralMan Mar 2014 #80

Bill Gates and Warren Buffett certainly parlayed their looks into great success. Nye Bevan Mar 2014 #71

and lets not forget the stunningness that is the koch brothers. La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2014 #74

This is what makes them so attractive. Cleita Mar 2014 #78

Not only in America. It's pretty much the same all over the world. Cleita Mar 2014 #75

No mystery how Angela Merkel rose to the Chancellorship of Germany. Nye Bevan Mar 2014 #77

Not sure it's #1; but it's up there. n/t Smarmie Doofus Mar 2014 #76

Pretty is a funny adjective, really. MineralMan Mar 2014 #81

Attractiveness is often in how you hold yourself, carry yourself, behave. randome Mar 2014 #83

ABSO-FUCKING-LUTELY. Pretty gets you farther. And more. And better. PERIOD. calimary Mar 2014 #84

thanks. very well said. nt Demo_Chris Mar 2014 #127

I think ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #85

You need to post a photo of yourself. bravenak Mar 2014 #86

+1000 JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #101

Right? bravenak Mar 2014 #117

Cosign on that JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #125

THIS. nt redqueen Mar 2014 #128

I've been told I don't know how many times snooper2 Mar 2014 #120

I think McCain would have picked satan if he though it would help. bravenak Mar 2014 #124

also,most of them are not very attractive , in fact i would say they tend to be very unattractive JI7 Mar 2014 #143

Haven't seen a cute one yet. bravenak Mar 2014 #146

The thing about being a woman in America BainsBane Mar 2014 #90

BB JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #108

I realize that BainsBane Mar 2014 #110

Nonsense Proud Public Servant Mar 2014 #92

not from what I've seen...in fact snooper2 Mar 2014 #97

It's difficult to try and argue one type of privilege is more or less "effective" than another, Maedhros Mar 2014 #96

Along with privilege comes many benefits Whisp Mar 2014 #102

Ha! I'd say sociable and well adjusted. ErikJ Mar 2014 #105

Attractiveness Dorian Gray Mar 2014 #109

no, the number 1 "privilege" is having had a good childhood cali Mar 2014 #115

If I had to pick, I'd largely agree with this. As well as perhaps not having Chathamization Mar 2014 #161

It is definitely a privilege. Jamastiene Mar 2014 #116

Oh great. Now we are going to have Pretty Privilege and/or Attractive Privilege wars. RC Mar 2014 #119

Oh HELL no.People treat you like you are stupid, people who are most impressed by looks enough to bettyellen Mar 2014 #121

I'm 41 now JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #126

I was too shy till about 30 or so. Then I realized I needed to ask the guy, LOL. bettyellen Mar 2014 #137

That certainly does happen. Lizzie Poppet Mar 2014 #130

I had a work friend like that years ago. tridim Mar 2014 #134

I had a few people tell me straight up that they were shocked that I was intelligent. bettyellen Mar 2014 #136

That's the thing about the attractiveness privilege, in order to use it to its fullest, one has stevenleser Mar 2014 #159

It got me fired for not sleeping with my boss, bettyellen Mar 2014 #169

If that were true, there'd be a hell of alot more black, Asian, Arab, Hispanic models and actors Number23 Mar 2014 #129

Back in the days of the studios ethnic European actors were sprayed Cleita Mar 2014 #131

Exactly. And even more recent ones are just as bad Number23 Mar 2014 #138

Yep, they still have a long way to go.n/t Cleita Mar 2014 #139

Didn't both Affleck and Jolie produce/direct and make the push for each of those films to be made? ProudToBeBlueInRhody Mar 2014 #152

I don't know if that's true or not but even if it was, they still could have found actors of color Number23 Mar 2014 #154

Yeah gollygee Mar 2014 #160

Oh my God, I've been saying that same thing forever Number23 Mar 2014 #170

Yep, exactly, because first society tells us what "pretty" is ... LisaLynne Mar 2014 #132

No, he's making a point of remaining unaware. BainsBane Mar 2014 #144

It's an interesting thought, TBH. AverageJoe90 Mar 2014 #133

I wish I knew. WinkyDink Mar 2014 #142

You wouldn't trade looks for Shankapotomus Mar 2014 #147

I think the #1 privilege is being born into money. Autumn Mar 2014 #148

Now think about what features get defined as "pretty" and why. You're missing the real story there. LeftyMom Mar 2014 #149

"Of course, I may be full of shit, just a thought" - Your words. Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 #151

I agree with some of the other posters. "Wealth" trumps "pretty". hughee99 Mar 2014 #153

'Attractive' is a biological privilege. Wealth is not tied to genes. alittlelark Mar 2014 #155

I agree it confers a potentially strong privilege, my only disagreement is whether wealth is more stevenleser Mar 2014 #162

For the 99%, you're exactly right. Vashta Nerada Mar 2014 #165

Looks like a lot of ugly people disagree, LMFAO! Corruption Inc Mar 2014 #167

Have to disagree Tsiyu Mar 2014 #168

I was able to be taken seriously.. alittlelark Mar 2014 #172

'Wealth' can be lost easily ... frittered away alittlelark Mar 2014 #171