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In reply to the discussion: Adam Lanza’s Father, in First Public Comments, Says ‘You Can’t Get Any More Evil’ [View all]Tumbulu
(6,292 posts)221. I find it hard to believe
Last edited Thu Mar 13, 2014, 04:12 PM - Edit history (2)
That he was always this way, in fact in the article it claims he made this shift at Junior high age or thereabouts.
But the dad never mentions once loving him.
That is my clue that, like some parents who are super achieving, he only wanted to support excellence and not simply surviving. Thus patience with disability was not a strong card.
I have read a number of Temple Grandin's books and what her mother did for her was extraordinary. What these children need is love and guidance, not shame from a parent.
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Adam Lanza’s Father, in First Public Comments, Says ‘You Can’t Get Any More Evil’ [View all]
SecularMotion
Mar 2014
OP
And in fact father tried to contact his son, but son didn't want to see his father.
LisaL
Mar 2014
#26
well, hell, that's GOT to be dad's fault. That would make me so f&&&ing angry I
ChairmanAgnostic
Mar 2014
#30
it is an old expression. It means sticking the knife in and twisting it after is doesn't
roguevalley
Mar 2014
#152
I agree. It seemed such a betrayal for him to say what he said. Like killing the kid
roguevalley
Mar 2014
#194
Just pointing out something here. He said Adam was evil *after* Adam had committed the murders.
yodermon
Mar 2014
#106
And not even the mother-of-the-year candidate who had custody was able to counteract ...
11 Bravo
Mar 2014
#18
Save your breath. It's what she does. She will quite literally make shit up ...
11 Bravo
Mar 2014
#135
Thanks for the clarification. I wasn't aware of that, since so many stories were about his mom.
arcane1
Mar 2014
#70
Many people grow up in households with guns, and manage to do so safely and without ever ...
markpkessinger
Mar 2014
#96
I believe he meant the acts couldn't be more evil- from the rest of the article, it seems what
bettyellen
Mar 2014
#118
Here's a link to the New Yorker article. You should read it. He's not scapegoating Adam.
smokey nj
Mar 2014
#93
... all of which is still a FAR FAR FUCKING CRY from accidentally raising a mass murderer.
yodermon
Mar 2014
#109
Sorry, I don't agree and I know what a dysfunctional family looks like. I grew up in a big one.
smokey nj
Mar 2014
#129
I grew up with 2 narcissistic parents. That doesn't strike me as the main issue even if true-
KittyWampus
Mar 2014
#136
I'm sure he beats himself up every day, much to the delight of the pitchfork-and-torch crowd.
chrisa
Mar 2014
#189
Off topic but I thought that was precisely the reason people keep guns in the house.
Ed Suspicious
Mar 2014
#6
i blame him Adam LAnza and both of his parents, they knew he had problems and didn't seem
JI7
Mar 2014
#11
one has to be a fucked up gun nut to keep arms stocked , and this is after there have already
JI7
Mar 2014
#45
I think it was more of a "I'm sure that my child will never have a normal life".
Liberal Veteran
Mar 2014
#82
we should know not to keep arms stocked up in the home if your kid has problems like this
JI7
Mar 2014
#50
Hello, Mr. Lanza? Why did you and your wife keep so many GUNS within his reach? Hmm????
Sarah Ibarruri
Mar 2014
#47
I thought he had been away from the family for years and the guns were Nancy's.
Packerowner740
Mar 2014
#220
Both parents were "into" guns, so Adam Lanza was raised with guns being a part of his life nt
Sarah Ibarruri
Mar 2014
#234
I don't recall where I read it, but his lady didn't turn overnight into a gun nut after divorce -
Sarah Ibarruri
Mar 2014
#237
The photos show daddy Lanza indoctrinating his son into the gun culture, like so many dads nowadays.
Hoyt
Mar 2014
#57
If that is the cause why aren't there 45 million shootings a year? (nt)
The Straight Story
Mar 2014
#61
same reason not every drunk driver will get in an accident, doesn't mean when there are accidents
JI7
Mar 2014
#66
I admit to aching at the a despair based on "it must be something I did or didn't do"
HereSince1628
Mar 2014
#64
Adam was not taking any drugs. Read the article. He refused to take any medication.
LisaL
Mar 2014
#120
Somebody here is ill-informed, but it's neither me nor the author of the article.
LisaL
Mar 2014
#154
His biochemistry is not going to allow him to keep the drug in his system for years.
LisaL
Mar 2014
#213
+10000. I'm aghast at the "experts" on this thread proclaiming guilt and assigning shame
riderinthestorm
Mar 2014
#182
I'm deeply uncomfortable with the blanket critiques about the Lanza family
riderinthestorm
Mar 2014
#190
Thank you so much for this. I hope it sheds some light on family dynamics
riderinthestorm
Mar 2014
#195
Is your brother still alive? In one article I read about one victim's family's visit to
tblue37
Mar 2014
#196
I was friends with the minister for the Klebold family, Rev Don Marxhausen
riderinthestorm
Mar 2014
#197
Thanks for the post, DonCoquixote! I'm sure you've educated a lot of people with this. n/t
pnwmom
Mar 2014
#108
Adam was an adult when he made the decision to stop contact with his father
riderinthestorm
Mar 2014
#215
When every single thing has to be twisted to fit a specific agenda it gets really crazy
Fumesucker
Mar 2014
#233