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GoldenOldie

(1,540 posts)
18. The hardest loss and the first was my Mother
Sat Mar 15, 2014, 11:58 PM
Mar 2014

And the hardest. She died after Avery long illness and I thought my heart would break. 15-yrs later I lost my older sister, father and brother within a matter of 13-months . I was with each one as They passed on to another journey. I was able to tell each one how much they meant to me but knew they were all entering another space and another journey. It seemed to bring them comfort and me a sense that this was not the end of our journeys together. My once held fear of death has been replaced with a quiet peace and I and my spouse have been able to have the talks with our children and grand-children. My mother and siblings died of cancer and my father of heart failure. I was diagnosed well before my siblings and not expected to survive, yet 26 years later I am still hanging around and passing my beliefs on to my children, my grandchildren and nieces and nephews. My eldest daughter has become an ER, Trauma, Flight, ICU RN and in her words "priveleged to be with her patient and their families," as they passed on. My only granddaughter was asked to sit with her best friends mother as she lay dying and although she found it extremely difficult as she had known this gentile woman formost of her life, she discovered it not only helped her through her grieving but also the daughter/best friend.

Vibes to you all. Never been through that. applegrove Mar 2014 #1
Thank you diabeticman Mar 2014 #6
My slight experience is when the breathing changes it is usally within the next 48 hours. Thinkingabout Mar 2014 #2
Thank you. I did earlier this week diabeticman Mar 2014 #7
It will be her victory Thinkingabout Mar 2014 #10
I lost my mother in December.... CherokeeDem Mar 2014 #3
I am sorry. thank you for the information diabeticman Mar 2014 #8
Doesn't sound cruel at all. My late wife couldn't take being with her dad when he died in a Hoyt Mar 2014 #4
Tanks for the support diabeticman Mar 2014 #9
I was with my grandfather in similar circumstances BainsBane Mar 2014 #5
I understand and respect your thoughts. I am sorry about your Grandfather and his situation. diabeticman Mar 2014 #12
The hardest loss and the first was my Mother GoldenOldie Mar 2014 #18
go see her no matter how uncomfy you feel. you will be super glad you did when she is gone. nt msongs Mar 2014 #11
your there for one thing. MFM008 Mar 2014 #13
Morphine will stop the pain but will expedite her end. Hoppy Mar 2014 #14
What does she want? She's the one ending her journey. flvegan Mar 2014 #15
She is blind and didn't recognize my voice earlier this past week. I don't think she understands diabeticman Mar 2014 #17
What if she does? flvegan Mar 2014 #20
Look you gotta do what you gotta do KentuckyWoman Mar 2014 #16
Thank you for your thoughts diabeticman Mar 2014 #19
As your wife explained, she will go to sleep and never wake up nadinbrzezinski Mar 2014 #21
.. Liberal_in_LA Mar 2014 #22
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