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In reply to the discussion: Laura Ingraham on ABC's This Week, it gets worse [View all]merrily
(45,251 posts)Ending a marriage is not usually an easy decision, especially if children are involved. The era in which she must have grown up was not all that easy on women, either, and not many of them could "closet" the fact that they were not straight men. I think some of the biggest winners of equal rights, when we all finally get them, will be the women gay man will no longer marry so they don't raise suspicion about being gay.
"Dating" a married man is something many hetero women have done, too--and we had more options for "dates" than you did.
Reminds me of a conversation a female friend had with her out, gay male hairdresser at about the time that you were going through your trauma:
She: "I am ashamed to admit that I dated a married man."
He" "Oh who hasn't?"
In his case, he dated the guy before and after the wedding--even gave him a wedding present and stood outside the church. I can't even imagine that kind of pain.
Again, just congratulate yourself on your survival at that young age and your wisdom. And on getting out of that relationship because something inside you knew you deserved better, no matter what society was saying then.