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Major Nikon

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22. Seems pretty evident that women prefer that arrangement

Tue May 13, 2014, 03:28 PM

May 2014

The raw gender pay gap for women without children practically evaporates and for younger unmarried women without kids the raw gender pay gap actually goes the opposite direction. This is true not just in the US, but in virtually every developed nation. Just because women have more equal opportunity to break out of traditional gender roles, doesn't mean they have to do so. That's what choice is all about.

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A feminist issue - caregiving of elderly parents [View all] Nine May 2014 OP

It ended up being up to my brother, elleng May 2014 #1

I'm glad your family was able to find an arrangement that worked for all. (nt) Nine May 2014 #3

I cared for over 4 years after my dad after his stroke in 2000 FrodosPet May 2014 #38

It ended up being my BF's brother because of the exact same reasons. blueamy66 May 2014 #25

Sounds like you need frazzled May 2014 #2

Good advice KT2000 May 2014 #4

Do you have figures to back up your statement? Downwinder May 2014 #5

My brother took care of my mom the last 5 years of her life. Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin May 2014 #6

I know that feeling! FrodosPet May 2014 #39

I don't see it as a feminist issue Major Nikon May 2014 #7

"Most people in this country are still content with the traditional arrangement of the man being bettyellen May 2014 #18

The data just doesn't support your assertion Major Nikon May 2014 #20

I'm aware that the overall trend the past 50 years has moved women into the workplace. bettyellen May 2014 #21

Seems pretty evident that women prefer that arrangement Major Nikon May 2014 #22

It seems evident that you would like to believe that. You'd also like to believe the salary gap is bettyellen May 2014 #23

A pay gap study done by feminists puts it in the single digits Major Nikon May 2014 #27

Single digits, if it is that low- is not insignificant. bettyellen May 2014 #29

So basically your claim is your own perceptions trump competently conducted studies Major Nikon May 2014 #31

my perceptions line up perfectly what states found in their public sector jobs for the past 24 years bettyellen May 2014 #41

Strawman Major Nikon May 2014 #47

Like I said, there is no good data comparing compensation in the private sector. Got anything else? bettyellen May 2014 #49

So you want me to provide the proof of your assertion Major Nikon May 2014 #51

How can I get my little sis to quit wanting to be a SAHM? FrodosPet May 2014 #40

why do you think one woman- your sister- has ANYTHING to do with statistical trends? she doesn't. bettyellen May 2014 #42

Definitely not from money FrodosPet May 2014 #44

Good for her- I hope she is more successful than average with her plan to stay out of the job market bettyellen May 2014 #50

I think you have the causal link largely backwards. Donald Ian Rankin May 2014 #28

LOL, I don't know a single woman who "focused on homemaking". They stay home a few months bettyellen May 2014 #30

I cared for my mother-in-law and both of my parents. Frustratedlady May 2014 #8

I did the same with my mother. There was no one left standing, literally. CTyankee May 2014 #37

Here are some figures. Nine May 2014 #9

"Daughters are more than twice as likely as sons to become caregivers for their mothers." bettyellen May 2014 #19

Not only that, you're on your own for medical insurance, unless you're Medicare-eligible. That is, raccoon May 2014 #10

It's becoming more of an issue, for sure. laundry_queen May 2014 #11

I can't even pipi_k May 2014 #12

I have a guy friend PasadenaTrudy May 2014 #13

My sister is the "primary caregiver"... meaculpa2011 May 2014 #14

True by necessity in my family -- all women. politicat May 2014 #15

I must be an exception to your rule. pintobean May 2014 #16

it is an issue-not sure if feminist--i am a male only child and yup its me dembotoz May 2014 #17

I'm personally affected by two elderly parent scenarios, and in both of them a son ... 11 Bravo May 2014 #24

I took care of my Dad, as I was the only surviving child. blueamy66 May 2014 #26

I don't get why you think that this is primarily a feminist issue... countryjake May 2014 #32

Yeah, I'm gonna need that link you mentioned. Jenoch May 2014 #33

Do you have sisters? Nine May 2014 #34

I wish you would stay on topic in your own thread. Jenoch May 2014 #35

So you understand how women feel when they are expected to do it by their brothers. bettyellen May 2014 #43

I meant to add this. Nine May 2014 #48

Happily, this was not the case - 3 brothers and 2 sisters, all pitched in Justice May 2014 #36

I belong to an Eldercare support group at work AnnieBW May 2014 #45

I could have used this advice 5 years ago. RobertEarl May 2014 #46