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41. "You make others wiser by sharing this agony." Nicely put. And true.

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Mon May 26, 2014, 01:52 AM

May 2014

What a great post - in reply to another singularly great and genuinely gripping post.

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I had a brother, and now a nephew that remind me very much of Elliot, and it is scary to contemplate [View all] bettyellen May 2014 OP

Mercy shenmue May 2014 #1

Well said KT2000 May 2014 #2

whenever something like the UCSB shootings occurs... mike_c May 2014 #3

I do condemn his sick attitudes, and am relieved that very few feel that way. All the while bettyellen May 2014 #5

amen on the gun control demigoddess May 2014 #18

I shudder to think what would have happened if we had guns around. Johnny did enough damage with bettyellen May 2014 #20

right back at you demigoddess May 2014 #27

I felt that way about my mother too catrose May 2014 #28

Oh catrose, I am so sorry bettyellen May 2014 #43

Brain malfunction Roarybeans May 2014 #46

My third grade teacher told my entire class Johnny was not going to heaven - bettyellen May 2014 #79

Sharing stories like yours helps others to understand BrotherIvan May 2014 #4

I hope so. Those of us in favor of gun control cannot afford to ignore this issue... bettyellen May 2014 #9

There are no easy answers, but families dealing with mental health issues clearly need more support hlthe2b May 2014 #6

thank you, and yes, so much depends on the community. If my brother survived the 70's he'd likely bettyellen May 2014 #10

People are complicated creatures. PeaceNikki May 2014 #7

Yes, we are. You never know what people are quietly struggling with. And this is not something I bettyellen May 2014 #16

It's true. PeaceNikki May 2014 #19

Wow. bettyellen May 2014 #37

I really appreciate this post. Raine1967 May 2014 #8

I am glad to hear he is getting help. I had no empathy even reading his bio at first, and then said bettyellen May 2014 #17

I didn't want to read it either, and I am not done yet. Raine1967 May 2014 #24

It is a tough read, he seems completely selfish and jealous of any little thing anyone else has that bettyellen May 2014 #25

thank you for sharing your story renate May 2014 #11

I appreciate your post Renate, I had the "what a raging asshole" reaction too, even though I should bettyellen May 2014 #13

Thank-you for sharing your story and your honesty Blue_Roses May 2014 #12

All I can say is.....good luck. Hope your nephew gets the help he needs. AverageJoe90 May 2014 #14

I understand. I have worried about this GreenPartyVoter May 2014 #15

I wish I could ease your worries, and wish the best outcome for bettyellen May 2014 #21

Thank you! Maybe it will be OK and he will grow up fine. We just have GreenPartyVoter May 2014 #22

Thank you for sharing this... PasadenaTrudy May 2014 #23

yeah, drama like that will make you grateful there were never guns around, I get it. bettyellen May 2014 #30

I don't know what to say bettyellen Aerows May 2014 #26

I will probably never see my nephew, as my SIL is one huge grudge holding control freak bettyellen May 2014 #29

sister in law kardonb May 2014 #31

did he ever have a head injury? mopinko May 2014 #32

my brother was caught a bit in the umbilical cord at birth- people speculated that might have hurt bettyellen May 2014 #35

funny mopinko May 2014 #40

I know they speculated about emotional trauma possibly being a trigger... bettyellen May 2014 #44

Our culture discourages male friendships, and in that way, closeupready May 2014 #33

It is clearly some kind of emotional/psychologocal disease nikto May 2014 #34

"You make others wiser by sharing this agony." Nicely put. And true. calimary May 2014 #41

"How can we do better?" That is the best question, and a big reason I am grateful for Obamacare. bettyellen May 2014 #64

Obamacare will be even better when... nikto May 2014 #72

Thank you for this, bettyellen- finally a sensible and sensitive post about Elliot Rodgers NBachers May 2014 #36

Thank you for posting this. glinda May 2014 #38

you are welcome glinda. bettyellen May 2014 #70

Incredible OP. Thank you. IrishAyes May 2014 #39

Thank you for saying so, and for being such a good friend to yours. bettyellen May 2014 #68

Thank you for sharing this story. I know it must have been painful, at least somewhat, to revisit nomorenomore08 May 2014 #42

No easy answers. Hopefully by sharing some will understand bettyellen May 2014 #56

I guess I know a little about that, having suffered from long-term chronic depression and perhaps nomorenomore08 May 2014 #69

thank you for sharing your story. barbtries May 2014 #45

you're welcome. after all these years, I was more nervous than sad to tell about it... bettyellen May 2014 #66

I spent five years being "raised" by a sociopath and a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder tavalon May 2014 #47

I knew I wouldn't have kids because of the possibility bettyellen May 2014 #54

I wish I had had that kind of forethought tavalon May 2014 #74

well my family had the women in charge of this stuff, and I saw how it wrecked my mom bettyellen May 2014 #75

Same here, except for the neices and nephew thing tavalon May 2014 #77

I completely relate to your experience. I have a bi-polar sister and a schizophrenic brother. mackerel May 2014 #48

Yes, there seems to be an inability to cope and small things get blown up bettyellen May 2014 #57

Don't mean to stray of-topic, but here's a question: snot May 2014 #49

My brother was pre-Atari, but he spent a lot of time "off by himself" bettyellen May 2014 #53

Of course, snot May 2014 #65

the general avoidance definately seems like an early sign in these cases- bettyellen May 2014 #67

MMOs are social entities. jeff47 May 2014 #78

Men. Almost always, it's men. Laelth May 2014 #50

Women can have the loneliness and isolation bloom May 2014 #55

Our 1st Amendment makes what you propose problematic. Laelth May 2014 #59

At least there is this: bloom May 2014 #60

I am torn on this. Laelth May 2014 #61

For all the other Elliot's out there, I hope they become more like this Elliot... cascadiance May 2014 #51

Thank you!! janlyn May 2014 #52

I am sorry to hear that, and thank you for sharing. bettyellen May 2014 #63

This thread has touched so many people. annabanana May 2014 #58

I have been really touched by every single reply here too. I don't want to be a jerk and reply to bettyellen May 2014 #62

Thank you so much for posting this, bettyellen. There is also a very close member nirvana555 May 2014 #71

I think a lot of people don't realize the many years of constant stress bettyellen May 2014 #73

i am so very sorry for all you have been through. Sissyk May 2014 #76