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In reply to the discussion: What are the main reasons men pay for sex? [View all]MineralMan
(146,317 posts)Rationalizations for depersonalizing relationships between men and women are a constant, I think. Establishing and maintaining a close relationship is not easy. There's always a lot of things to work out between any two people to arrive at a mutually rewarding balance. Many people are too impatient and self-absorbed to deal with that process, I think. Such people are forever trying to find some shortcut to getting their own needs taken care of. That leads to a whole group of problems for both individuals and society.
This is all complicated even more for adults, once they're out of school and in careers of any kind. The opportunities to build friendships that may lead to romantic and sexual relationships are fewer out in the real world. The odds that any two people at random will become a couple are very long, indeed, so frustration is all part of adulthood.
For many men and women, finding a compatible and supportive partner is a tough job. Many give up. Many never try. Many attempt to substitute other things for real relationships. Many look in the wrong places or don't bother to put themselves in situations where they will have opportunities to meet people who might become part of a relationship. Many people settle for relationships that end up falling apart due to imbalance.
It's hard. Not everyone wants to work at it. And so we have a lot of people who simply don't have good, equal relationships. It's very unfortunate for all involved.