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In reply to the discussion: What are the main reasons men pay for sex? [View all]notadmblnd
(23,720 posts)174. Their wives won't put out any more.
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So you've never paid for something that you didn't want to do or couldn't get someone to do free?
brooklynite
Aug 2014
#18
Several possibilities come to mind: but putting a temporary end to loneliness tops the list.
In_The_Wind
Aug 2014
#10
Yeah. I don't doubt that a lot of "johns" are violent, abusive creeps, though certainly not all.
nomorenomore08
Aug 2014
#15
and that is why I have purposely made my comments in this thread gender free. I can not speak
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#152
Which demonstrates that the claim that that is why men pay prostitutes is a lie. nt
redqueen
Aug 2014
#85
They don't "need" to. They simply want to, and they have the extra money required
redqueen
Aug 2014
#54
Yes, I was expecting more of the former but, all we got was the later. n/t
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#90
The article, beginning with the "just like every other long term couple except he pays her"
Squinch
Aug 2014
#19
You guys will just pull anything out of your asses to justify this, won't you? Voluntary
Squinch
Aug 2014
#248
And depending on the type of sex worker, the sex workers have plenty of "rules" of their own
R B Garr
Aug 2014
#176
That is exactly what the article did. Interesting anecdotal article. Yes. n/t
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#94
The reason that's the case is they insist on looking at women as sex providers
treestar
Aug 2014
#312
Really, how many rich women choose to express their sexual "freedom" in this way.
smirkymonkey
Aug 2014
#189
Compared to marriage, a much lower level of emotional, physical and financial investment isrequired.
GliderGuider
Aug 2014
#32
Your 'personal, individual taste' is in large part based on societal standards.
Erich Bloodaxe BSN
Aug 2014
#179
Very true. We are socialized to find beautiful that which is presented to us as beautiful.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Aug 2014
#215
Could someone explain the "you don't pay them for sex, you pay them to leave" thing?
betsuni
Aug 2014
#45
I believe the people who are saying it's about human touch are wrong. Right now,
Squinch
Aug 2014
#304
But why is it, the vast majority of the time, men? There are women who are lazy and
Squinch
Aug 2014
#348
The amount of excuses and justifications used to push this neoliberal agenda here is disturbing.
redqueen
Aug 2014
#100
"What one does in bed" can be either a private matter or a commercial transaction.
redqueen
Aug 2014
#157
Despite what lots of people seem to think, sex is not a basic biological 'need'.
Sheldon Cooper
Aug 2014
#104
I suppose it's proof that asexual people, who define themselves as different from sexual people,
Warren DeMontague
Aug 2014
#254
yet oddly enough, some people get very upset if the concept of "porn addiction" is challenged.
Warren DeMontague
Aug 2014
#255
By that standard, children don't need education and women don't need access to contraception.
Jim Lane
Aug 2014
#236
The biology is simply ball drainage relief with some validation of one's sexual identity. That's it.
ancianita
Aug 2014
#82
Have money that isn't needed else where (or is and they don't care) and need something or want......
Tikki
Aug 2014
#111
Off topic: How would primitive man even know how to make a saddle to put on a dinosaur? n/t
Yavin4
Aug 2014
#195
I'll bet it is for the forbidden thrill. It's a turn on for some men, I am sure, just to go
CTyankee
Aug 2014
#141
I tend to agree that the illegality of it all (and forbidden in the marital context) is some part
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#168
I like that you supply anecdotal evidence to debate the anecdotal evidence in the OP
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#148
I also note that the OP specifically addresses the topic of why do MEN pay for sex
Tuesday Afternoon
Aug 2014
#167
Yes, they didn't get the Girlfriend Experience - JC these people are delusional. n/t
seaglass
Aug 2014
#224
It's okay to walk into a bar and convince an inebriated stranger to have sex with you.
Yavin4
Aug 2014
#150
NOTE: Little Blue refused to agree to work for legalization in his own community
BainsBane
Aug 2014
#405
If you don't pay in money, you pay in time. Either way there is exchange going on
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#160
"Maybe it's jealousy. The general labor whores are jealous that they're not getting the same
R B Garr
Aug 2014
#362
Oh you're mad because I called you a Labor Ho? Because that's exactly what you are
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#372
Continuing to look down on the Prostitutes. And they wonder why things don't change.
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#380
Now you're contradicting yourself because before you said prostitutes were so highly paid
R B Garr
Aug 2014
#382
No contradiction whatsoever. I'm addressing that stigma on prostitution that prevents the reforms
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#388
And while we wait for the whole world to come together on this, something that has never happened
Squinch
Aug 2014
#346
I did research. No country is putting out the resources necessary to stop it
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#350
"Stopping traffickng is not very hard." You have to understand that is an assinine statement.
Squinch
Aug 2014
#351
Based on a blog. So here's the thing. Yes. We get that you read a blog and you think everyone
Squinch
Aug 2014
#354
Dismissiveness is the sign of defeat. You don't wanna learn from the actual people themselves.
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#358
No dismissiveness is caused by the fact that your position: "getting rid of trafficking is easy" is
Squinch
Aug 2014
#363
Wow. That's a really crazy analogy that has nothing to do with the situation under discussion.
Squinch
Aug 2014
#375
So in the parent/child relationship - the parents are the pimps, and the kids are the hos?
redqueen
Aug 2014
#272
Pimps *physically beat and abuse women*. They *intentionally get them addicted to drugs*.
redqueen
Aug 2014
#289
Ducktales WAS awesome. And trafficking went up because there was no follow through
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#365
John, it isn't that we are missing your enlightened messages. It's that your messages are silly.
Squinch
Aug 2014
#364
Yeah, his "all the whores are jealous" pearls are hilarious. And now the car pearl:
R B Garr
Aug 2014
#367
Yep. Parts. And people are mad in this thread because some use their genital parts to make money
johnlucas
Aug 2014
#392
All you are going on and on about is something called "Opportunity Costs". It's basic economic
R B Garr
Aug 2014
#407
Dear, you aren't really challenging or destroying anything. And your ridiculous assertions really
Squinch
Aug 2014
#395
Sex advice columnist, Dan Savage, encourages married couples to visit an escort
Yavin4
Aug 2014
#188
If a man gives a woman roses, takes her to a Broadway show, and pays for a very expensive meal.
Yavin4
Aug 2014
#187
That is such an odd question. Do you think prostitutes want to date? Do prostitutes
seaglass
Aug 2014
#241
Dishonest prostitutes want to date? Does not sound like an effective business strategy. Are you
seaglass
Aug 2014
#277
Roses, a Broadway show and dinner are fairly paltry offerings for someone looking for gold,
seaglass
Aug 2014
#298
If a woman slept with a man after a date is she considered a prostitute? Maybe in your mind. n/t
seaglass
Aug 2014
#301
I thought it was obvious, no I don't consider a woman who goes on a date with someone and then has
seaglass
Aug 2014
#303
No, not all women are prostitutes. I'm disgusted that no one has called out this post and the one
redqueen
Aug 2014
#271
This whole subthread is disgusting, as is the fact that so few have shit to say about it.
redqueen
Aug 2014
#283
Wow, you read soooo much into posts that it's worthless to even have a discussion with you
Yavin4
Aug 2014
#286
Let me guess: you think you are a real nice guy, and don't understand why more women don't like you.
Squinch
Aug 2014
#307
Ability to fully dictate terms of a sexual encounter with no further obligation.
TheKentuckian
Aug 2014
#220
Check out the Pictures that are released of those arrested for trying to pay for sex
JI7
Aug 2014
#222
Did I ever mention that I used to have an odd, almost preternatural loathing for BOTH those people?
Warren DeMontague
Aug 2014
#256
Maybe because women they are sexually attracted to aren't attracted to them. I remember
raccoon
Aug 2014
#284
Most humans are trafficked to work on farms, in restaurants, in hotels, in nail salons, etc.
Yavin4
Aug 2014
#330
The two positions you describe are not mutually exclusive. There is no one on this board who
Squinch
Aug 2014
#347
"There is no one on this board who has a problem with consenting adults doing anything"
LadyHawkAZ
Aug 2014
#411
Government retains the right to designate where businesses can be located.
DemocratSinceBirth
Aug 2014
#409