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In reply to the discussion: What are the main reasons men pay for sex? [View all]johnlucas
(1,250 posts)I'm using textbook definition.
You're arguing from a word usage standpoint.
We give certain things special names.
Some things we call places like cities, rivers & mountains.
Some things we call persons or people.
You are made of MATTER.
That means you are MATERIAL.
That makes you an OBJECT of material.
That makes you a THING of material.
Do you work a job for a living?
Look up the etymology on the word 'employee'.
What does it tell you?
Employer & Employee are User & Usee.
All humans use each other for different things for different reasons.
Some may use someone as a sounding board.
Some may use someone as a shoulder to cry on.
Some may use someone as a helping hand.
You heard of the expression "I could use a few good men"
or "How can I be of good use?".
It's not the using that's the problem.
It's the LACK OF RECIPROCATION that's the problem.
When someone uses you for something & won't let you use them back.
UNFAIR Use is the problem.
Human beings love to inflate their status & importance.
We're really full of ourselves as a species.
We see ourselves as so above everything else.
Even the Laws of Nature.
We're ALL here to make use of each other.
That's how we build societies.
We use the Earth for our needs & the Earth uses us for its needs.
This is the Universe's Law I'm telling you, treestar.
It's not a sinister thing.
It's the Way of the Universe.
Read that book The Selfish Gene to come out of that fantasy you're living in.
Even when you do something for someone thinking that you're not asking for anything in return, you have already gotten something out of the interaction.
You get an internal feel-good boost.
That is your reward.
There are no selfless acts.
Thing is not necessarily a slur, treestar.
There were songs called You Sexy Thang & Pretty Young Thing.
We are living things full of anima (soul) but things nonetheless.
All just bits of stardust...
John Lucas