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In reply to the discussion: How to know that you hate women [View all]SylviaD
(721 posts)I agree that the word "hate" is trite and overused. I also doubt that Ray Rice hates women. He doesn't respect us at all and has no problem physically attacking us. His ideas about us are probably reprehensible and backward. But "hate" is the wrong word.
My second point is that many of the commenters here are being ridiculously racist and sexist. Sexist in that their attributions of Janay's motives and thought processes are infantilizing her. "She has Stockholm syndrome" is a terribly sexist thing to say. The fact is that the writer of that comment needs to seriously unpack their own sexist attitudes before they comment on this story further.
Racist in that people are denying/minimalizing/ignoring Janay's heritage as an African-American woman. She has a set of life experiences and cultural experiences that a white observer has no access to and is most likely ignorant of. You don't know "why she is staying with him". You can't, because at least part of the reason she is staying with him is beyond your capacity to understand. Or mine. So don't comment on her motives or possible reasons. To do otherwise is to act in a covertly racist manner.
That's really all I have to say on this subject.