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In reply to the discussion: Quick Question... Why should black people love white people? [View all]one_voice
(20,043 posts)it's along the same lines as a woman that's been abused/raped why in the world would she ever trust a man again. Why would the child that's been abused by a priest ever trust the church again.
Of course what you're talking about is on a much larger scale and impacts so many more people. I get where you're coming from.
As I've said before I have multiracial family, with various age groups....young to very old. The conversations we have are fascinating, heartbreaking and promising all at the same time.
Whether it's justified, right, wrong or otherwise it does bother me when an entire group of people are vilified (that may be the wrong word, I will apologize now if it is).
Again, this example is no where near what you're talking about, but a small personal experience of a group of people being judged...
My son was dating a girl. My husband is Puerto Rican. The girls mother was jumped by a group of Puerto Rican girls when she was young and she had other bad experiences with them (Peurto Ricans) therefore she didn't trust/like any of them. So my son was a POS as far as she was concerned and she said as much. Long story short she grew to love him. This girls extended family also said some pretty nasty stuff about Puerto Ricans, and though it worked out in the end, it didn't erase the nastiness and hurt that was caused. Having to watch my son go through that....
When I was growing up I was pretty much an outcast, well my brother and me. All because my mom loved and married a black man. My black & bi-racial siblings were accepted my the black community. But my white brother and me, we weren't accepted by white or black. It was hell for many years. The cruelty. Unreal. Most days were spent fighting. I was put out of two schools. Eventually things got better.
Seeing my mother spit on, by white people and black people. The names my dad were called--by both groups.
The black folks didn't like the whites and vise versa and there we were; kids caught in the middle of all that group hate. It sucks.
Like I said, I understand what you're saying and where you're coming from. But hate has touched my life too closely--as I know it has yours. Which is why you feel the way you do. It hurts my heart in a way I can't put into words. I just have to have faith that the young people from both sides try heal this divide.
I know I went off on a tangent here a little, sorry about that.