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KitSileya

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102. Scary to see those who argue it is a need

Reply to PowerToThePeople (Original post)

Sat Jun 13, 2015, 11:03 AM

Jun 2015

It's very icky to see how many argue it is a need and not a want here, and they're not even meaning masturbation, but having sex with another person. It's not a need. You don't die if you don't have sex. There are no persons born who don't need air. There are no persons born who don't need water, food, or sleep. However, there are people born who live perfectly well without sex, either with themselves or with others.

The ones who argue it is a need are the same types who think the Isla Vista shooter just needed to get laid, and why didn't any of the women in Isla Vista sacrifice themselves? The day those who argue it is a need offer their own body to all comers, regardless of gender, age, and looks, I might think they are less repulsive. As it is, they are disgusting.

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Poll: Sex, a need or a want? [View all] PowerToThePeople Jun 2015 OP

A want joward stern Jun 2015 #1

Without it none of us would be here Fumesucker Jun 2015 #2

Tell this gal. valerief Jun 2015 #40

Yes. KamaAina Jun 2015 #3

Need to continue the species. As an individual though, want. uppityperson Jun 2015 #4

In general or me, personally? wyldwolf Jun 2015 #5

I like waffles. Katashi_itto Jun 2015 #6

I just cooked up some buckwheat pancakes tonight. They were a want, definitely valerief Jun 2015 #42

Lol. Agschmid Jun 2015 #60

Both a floor wax, *and* a dessert topping. nt MannyGoldstein Jun 2015 #7

Hilarious :) Aerows Jun 2015 #19

Sex Koinos Jun 2015 #8

Sex Free For Twenty Years - A Want cantbeserious Jun 2015 #9

Free for twenty years??? How much was it before that? ret5hd Jun 2015 #14

I'm 32, so that makes it 32 years for me :) nt LostOne4Ever Jun 2015 #58

That explains a lot. Agschmid Jun 2015 #61

Seems to be pretty high on Maslow's index hifiguy Jun 2015 #10

Thank you for referencing a "silly" scientist. PowerToThePeople Jun 2015 #11

There are far, far too many people here who "believe" without bothering to hifiguy Jun 2015 #12

+2 LittleBlue Jun 2015 #41

Yup. Agschmid Jun 2015 #62

As a basic need it is definitely controversial. joshcryer Jun 2015 #73

Sex is a need. That being a said, sex with another person is a desire that can Exilednight Jun 2015 #13

JOKE! Skittles Jun 2015 #57

Both The2ndWheel Jun 2015 #15

No one is entitled to have another person be available for them for sex gollygee Jun 2015 #16

The point is not PowerToThePeople Jun 2015 #18

Assuming you can find someone to consent gollygee Jun 2015 #20

Love and intimacy is considered an important need in Maslow's hierarchy davidn3600 Jun 2015 #32

Two things gollygee Jun 2015 #34

Re #2 hifiguy Jun 2015 #36

I'm not ascribing anything to anyone gollygee Jun 2015 #37

Nobody is entitled to food The2ndWheel Jun 2015 #66

Yeah they are gollygee Jun 2015 #78

That's different than what I said The2ndWheel Jun 2015 #81

Our society recognizes a need for food and feels we are entitled to it gollygee Jun 2015 #84

I would agree The2ndWheel Jun 2015 #89

Exactly, that is how prostitution came about treestar Jun 2015 #98

I'm pretty sure there are 'sex banks' and 'sex stamps.' appal_jack Jun 2015 #90

In my original reply gollygee Jun 2015 #91

just havin' fun, gollygee! nt appal_jack Jun 2015 #97

The planet gives us food treestar Jun 2015 #96

Well if it were a true need, like food treestar Jun 2015 #94

but then you are adding in love and intimacy treestar Jun 2015 #93

Sex is required for reproduction of the species davidn3600 Jun 2015 #99

I don't think I disagreed treestar Jun 2015 #100

Both madokie Jun 2015 #17

+1 Rex Jun 2015 #35

Are we talking with or without the trapeze swing and feather duster? Nuclear Unicorn Jun 2015 #21

:) PowerToThePeople Jun 2015 #23

I'm just asking for a friend Nuclear Unicorn Jun 2015 #30

That reminded me of a line variously attributed to a number of comics hifiguy Jun 2015 #27

At my age? safeinOhio Jun 2015 #22

For some people it is a need. MadrasT Jun 2015 #24

It depends upon what the meaning of the word "is" is. betsuni Jun 2015 #25

A legitimate query, for sure! cheapdate Jun 2015 #64

Hell, for some people micro-managing the consenting adult choices of others seems to be a "need" Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #26

Preach it, brother. hifiguy Jun 2015 #28

I do enjoy thumping the pulpit from time to time! Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #29

So that's what the kids are calling it these days. bluesbassman Jun 2015 #69

! hunter Jun 2015 #85

+1 NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #50

calling it a "need" is all too often used to justify rotten behavior. unblock Jun 2015 #31

+1 laundry_queen Jun 2015 #38

Yes, precisely. The government has the right to distribute food and water, because Yo_Mama Jun 2015 #48

In order to be a happy person? TexasMommaWithAHat Jun 2015 #33

Yes. H2O Man Jun 2015 #39

A want obviously Omnith Jun 2015 #43

A want (but incredibly strong want) for the individual, a need for society Shoulders of Giants Jun 2015 #44

I want and need it. bigwillq Jun 2015 #45

This thread isn't nearly as big a train wreck as I would have predicted. NaturalHigh Jun 2015 #46

Indeed. The usual crowd of bomb-throwers hifiguy Jun 2015 #49

Quite a few of them are temporarily gone... Agschmid Jun 2015 #63

Deservedly do. Some should be permanently gone. hifiguy Jun 2015 #67

Still is, you just have to tell the right people. Agschmid Jun 2015 #68

Oh here, let me shake that up a bit for ya then. underahedgerow Jun 2015 #54

Masturbation is a separate thing, but sex with other people is a want, not a need Yo_Mama Jun 2015 #47

Maslow seems to think otherwise. hifiguy Jun 2015 #51

Do people "need" the things that make the difference between mere survival and living? Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #55

IMO, need equates with what is essential for survival BainsBane Jun 2015 #71

Maybe. Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #72

Of course it can BainsBane Jun 2015 #74

I'm sure they invoke all kinds of things, as justification. Warren DeMontague Jun 2015 #76

And historically this has been the position in many cultures. Yo_Mama Jun 2015 #80

But it does have an easy solution kcr Jun 2015 #83

Today it is a want sarisataka Jun 2015 #52

Baby I'm a want you, baby I'm a need you. N/t Whiskeytide Jun 2015 #53

2 outa 3 ain't bad. n/t PowerToThePeople Jun 2015 #65

Depends on the person LostOne4Ever Jun 2015 #56

It's complicated, not binary. hunter Jun 2015 #59

Thanks for that angle. joshcryer Jun 2015 #75

I think there's probably an instinctual aspect to sex. joshcryer Jun 2015 #70

I don't know about sex, but I do know that children need to feel loved and cared for and JDPriestly Jun 2015 #77

They call it sexual desire which is a want liberal N proud Jun 2015 #79

If it's more than a want then you should probably see a psychiatrist. Arkana Jun 2015 #82

I'm not dead. dawg Jun 2015 #86

It felt like a need when I was younger. Now it's more of a want. closeupready Jun 2015 #87

Want. You won't die if deprived of sex, so there's no need. Quackers Jun 2015 #88

Since we won't die without it treestar Jun 2015 #92

Both Glassunion Jun 2015 #95

Let's see.... Stellar Jun 2015 #101

Scary to see those who argue it is a need KitSileya Jun 2015 #102