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MellowDem

(5,018 posts)

2. Why?

Reply to ashling (Original post)

Mon Dec 26, 2011, 02:07 AM

Dec 2011

You can't apologize for him. And why do you frame things in terms of race? I mean, everyone is bigoted towards everyone else, and it's never a good thing. If you are going to apologize for "Anglo Caucasian" bigotry towards blacks and Hispanics, you might as well apologize for all bigotry from any made up group to any other made up group that's ever been done. It would make as much sense.

In other words, it's not your problem, it's your father-in-law's. Don't apologize for him. Confront him with his bigotry if you feel you can, but if not (family is complicated), then don't sweat it.

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I just got home from my mother-in-law's in Mississippi [View all] ashling Dec 2011 OP

I hope you feel better nadinbrzezinski Dec 2011 #1

Why? MellowDem Dec 2011 #2

it isnt hard for me to feel the same as you..... hope you are feeling better. nt seabeyond Dec 2011 #3

I feel his pain. My brother makes me crazy. It is one of the few things about my roguevalley Dec 2011 #16

yep, hope you feel better Dan Dec 2011 #4

You are not responsibe for what someone else says. SheilaT Dec 2011 #5

Very toxic person. Guess there's no TRO in place. How miserable to listen to poison when one is sick freshwest Dec 2011 #6

Brother.... quickesst Dec 2011 #7

i know you were sick and in a weakened state, barbtries Dec 2011 #8

I know that asshat, or someone just like him.... Scuba Dec 2011 #9

I too have listened to family members Frances Dec 2011 #10

A touch off topic, but my husband - who has family from Boston - says there are more racists in Fawke Em Dec 2011 #12

well, it may not be right newspeak Dec 2011 #19

Sometimes it feels important to let people know you're not a racist lunatica Dec 2011 #11

Agree. My silence feels like approval or acceptance to me duhneece Dec 2011 #13

I appreciate the examples of the things you say Frances Dec 2011 #15

I struggled to find a way to say what I wanted to, without sounding mean & ugly duhneece Dec 2011 #17

they used to say that if we got rid of racial bigotry, if demigoddess Dec 2011 #14

I share in that thought. Two of my grandsons think it is okay to talk like a racist in music they jwirr Dec 2011 #18

anyone remember the experiment where the teacher told her class newspeak Dec 2011 #20