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Mon Jan 23, 2017, 08:46 AM Jan 2017

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To Christy on Facebook, who doesn’t need the Women’s March
Susan Speer

In response to the millions of women who marched yesterday, there’s a Facebook rebuttal going around by a woman named Christy. Apparently, there are quite a few women who agree with her.

The summary: Christy doesn’t need this march. Why do any women need this march? This is America, I have everything I need, and if you don’t, it’s your own fault, and marching won’t fix that for you.

Here is my response to Christy, and by association, all the women who agreed with her:

Hi Christy. We don’t know each other, but your #notmymarch post is getting shared a lot today. It showed up in my feed, thanks to a few of my friends who like what you’re saying.

In some respects, our worlds probably aren’t too far apart.

I’m going to make assumptions — and I could be wrong — but I’m a college-educated, professional mom. I live in a safe neighborhood with nice houses, surrounded by big, shady trees. My days are filled with the stuff of suburbia: My kids get a warm breakfast before school, and I go to work or the gym. I get my groceries delivered to my door. I’m a single mom and my life gets messy sometimes, but I’m grateful for everything my kids and I have and I fully understand that there are women in this country who don’t have a sliver of what I have and no matter what they do, they never will. And it isn’t because they aren’t trying hard enough.

Christy, I’m going to ask you an important question.

Besides the cashier at Target — the one who watches you swipe your bank card and walk out with your $195 worth of whatever you buy at Target — besides that woman, or the woman who stretches out of the drive-thru window to give you your grande skinny latte that you paid for with the app on your phone…. (and here’s the question) When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with a woman whose life isn’t pretty much like yours?

Take all the time you need.

You said you were being made to feel like you’re a “disgrace to women” because you don’t agree with women who marched yesterday.

That’s a clever opener to get a boost from the girlfriends who might be on the edge of feeling the way you do, and were waiting for someone to say it so they could agree with you. It’s like saying, “I know I’m fat and ugly,” so your friends will rush to your side to reassure you that you’re not.

You say your voice is heard. You say you’re not a second-class citizen. So what’s the problem, amirite?

Again, I’m full of assumptions here, but you feel like your voice is heard, because maybe you have no idea what it feels like to not be heard. You don’t feel like a second-class citizen, because you’ve never been one.


Which brings me to The Women’s March.

I didn’t march because I personally feel marginalized. I marched because I can. I marched because a lot of women can’t, even if you don’t see them. I marched for women of privilege, women who don’t have shit, women who are raising awesome children with their same-sex partner who has to legally adopt the child that is biologically hers, and might find herself spontaneously unmarried in the eyes of the Supreme Court. I marched for women who need reproductive healthcare of any kind. I marched for the 17-year old pregnant girl who dropped out of school to sort my clothes at the dry cleaners for $7.25/hour. She has to quit when the baby comes because she doesn’t get any time off, paid or otherwise. Her next job will be minimum wage, too, because she hasn’t gotten her GED yet and doesn’t know if she can get in the night school program because she’ll need someone to stay with her newborn. I marched for the woman who was raped in college and still hasn’t even told her best friend, after all these years.

I even marched for you, Christy. Even if you don’t feel like you need anyone to march for you.
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That is perfect TNNurse Jan 2017 #1
It's there and where I got it from. babylonsister Jan 2017 #2
I'm guessing with a little bit of digging Blue_Tires Jan 2017 #3
Maybe not; babylonsister Jan 2017 #4
Righties trying to insulate themselves from unpleasant introspection brought about by Mc Mike Jan 2017 #6
n/t BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2017 #19
rbay Mc Mike Jan 2017 #32
Hmmm I have no idea why I replied, n/t to you!! BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2017 #35
It was puzzling, but not insulting, B. Nt. Mc Mike Jan 2017 #41
Lol! It was 4am so, I guess that explains it. n/t BlancheSplanchnik Jan 2017 #43
Ah. nT Mc Mike Jan 2017 #44
I've been hearing from a few women I know personally. mountain grammy Jan 2017 #9
I watched "news" for the first time since November 8, switching primarily between.... George II Jan 2017 #12
I agree with every thing being said here except one.... LakeArenal Jan 2017 #21
As you may have noticed on my FB page Adsos Letter Jan 2017 #27
There are plenty of women against feminism IronLionZion Jan 2017 #18
It's amazing to me how Republicans, including Republican women, Binders Keepers Jan 2017 #5
Sold Out DownriverDem Jan 2017 #7
Women fell in line but holy mackeral, how about the congresmen that fell in line. LakeArenal Jan 2017 #22
K&R smirkymonkey Jan 2017 #8
I saw that and answered that she wouldn't have rights cry baby Jan 2017 #10
K&R ismnotwasm Jan 2017 #11
K&R betsuni Jan 2017 #13
K&R gademocrat7 Jan 2017 #14
"It's called empathy, Christie, instead of selfishness (or often, narcissism)" kerry-is-my-prez Jan 2017 #15
her lack of empathy doesn't change anyone's struggle TalenaGor Jan 2017 #16
Excellent point there, and welcome to DU! Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #37
ty :) im not new just recycled lol TalenaGor Jan 2017 #39
K & R ...... nt Wounded Bear Jan 2017 #17
I just talked to a patient of mine volstork Jan 2017 #20
Wonderful. Mad_Dem_X Jan 2017 #23
It doesn't mean we shouldn't try. It doesn't mean we should let their bigotry go Maru Kitteh Jan 2017 #38
I hope Christy has an extra room central scrutinizer Jan 2017 #24
If she needs one, she'll have one. Because this...this is America. Iggo Jan 2017 #25
Upvote and Rec Afromania Jan 2017 #26
Well done Hekate Jan 2017 #28
Shared this on my facebook. Thank you for posting. n/t coeur_de_lion Jan 2017 #29
That Christy woman is a real piece of work! flygal Jan 2017 #30
Woman on another website posted she didn't need it either HockeyMom Jan 2017 #31
k&r n/t lordsummerisle Jan 2017 #33
This brings up an interesting contradiction JDC Jan 2017 #34
This is just fantastic. Thanks Hekate Jan 2017 #36
My first thought ellie Jan 2017 #40
The ones I've sent ate from 'Debra" underpants Jan 2017 #42
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