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In reply to the discussion: The Rock Test: A Hack for Men Who Dont Want To Be Accused of Sexual Harassment [View all]Jim Lane
(11,175 posts)45. That actually happened to me and I was fine with it.
I think the difference is that we were both straight so there was no implication beyond his liking that particular tie. He was even my boss and that didn't matter.
On the other hand, if a man (at least one who's straight or a closeted gay) compliments a woman's clothing, she has to consider whether he's making a sexual overture. The further complication is that he might actually be making a sexual overture, or, to put it another way, flirting. If he wants to ask her out but doesn't want to risk rejection, he might make a remark like that to see how she reacts. As a result, if the exchange occurs between co-workers, and especially if she reports to him, there are problems that didn't arise when my boss complimented my tie.
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The Rock Test: A Hack for Men Who Dont Want To Be Accused of Sexual Harassment [View all]
WhiskeyGrinder
Oct 2017
OP
Feigning confusion as to what sexual harassment is an ugly slippery slope and you're on it.
bettyellen
Oct 2017
#39
I think it's on all of us to call out this "how will I know I'm harassing" bullshit because it's
bettyellen
Oct 2017
#41
That sounds different than using it once in a humor column to make a hyperbolic point.
WhiskeyGrinder
Oct 2017
#20
The breezy, ironically detached tone implied by the judicious use of "like" as well as other
WhiskeyGrinder
Oct 2017
#24
I can't imagine why not calling women "pretty" at work sucks so bad for you. nt.
Weekend Warrior
Oct 2017
#29
Or why they feel they need to comment on co-workers' appearances at all.
WhiskeyGrinder
Oct 2017
#31
Because it's a great conversation starter before asking them out on a date. Duh.
Weekend Warrior
Oct 2017
#32