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In reply to the discussion: Post removed [View all]Doreen
(11,686 posts)132. Did not bar hop. I was a damn goodie two shoes.
Now at my age and not being a skinny gorgeous woman if I was in a bar I might kind of delighted if a man swat or pinched my butt. ( kind of. ) In a place like work, on the street, or anywhere that is not a place you are not possibly looking for some companionship it is wrong. I would not call the police if someone gave me a single swat or pinch. If I did not like it and told them to quit and they kept it up I would call the police. This can be an iffy subject and I think it also depends on the particular woman.
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That was part of it, but back then it was assumed to be in the gay bars...
TreasonousBastard
Nov 2017
#23
No, being forcibly held down and/or beaten is a violent act...usually rape follows...also date
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#16
I went to clubs and the entire point of going was to meet men...I was not one for one night stands..
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#6
It was. We had a Bar called the Dial Tone that had phone so you could call other tables...we had a
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#53
Me too...I love wine...I used to drink Vodka and Tonic or wine spritzer after I figured out that
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#115
I don't recall any guy ever asking if he could kiss me...sex sure...you have to consent...but some
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#116
Thank you. If a guy can't control himself, then it's his fault, not the woman's.
madinmaryland
Nov 2017
#109
It really is. There are sick freaks out there and not all of them go to bars either.
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#46
Perhaps if we truly earned an equal wage, the cheap drink nights wouldn't be attended
Deb
Nov 2017
#14
I used to do that with friends. It was usually to enjoy some live music (or a good dj back in the
Arkansas Granny
Nov 2017
#21
What the fuck? Did you really mean to say sexual assault is the woman's fault?
mythology
Nov 2017
#24
A 15 yr old rode his bicycle in front of 12 yr old me, stopped and grabbed my crotch
uppityperson
Nov 2017
#49
Maybe they intended for it to be Angus, its a common mistake with Texas Aggies.
Jim Beard
Nov 2017
#155
Never went alone (other women); went to socialize have a drink and maybe dance a few times
hlthe2b
Nov 2017
#25
Yes, most of us understand but many don't seem to know the difference. Thats why I have been posting
Jim Beard
Nov 2017
#136
Of course not...we go for the same reason guys do ...to have fun...maybe meet someone...
Demsrule86
Nov 2017
#35
That's obvious if you view women as full human beings and not just potential sexual partners. nt
gollygee
Nov 2017
#140
My girlfriends and I went out to bars in the late fifties and early 60's.
appleannie1943
Nov 2017
#40
Psst, whats your number? LOL I ask you because I figured you have a sense of humor!!!
Jim Beard
Nov 2017
#137
Back in the day, I once saw a young lady fill up her handbag with food from the happy hour buffet.
Hoyt
Nov 2017
#50
I did my share of bar hopping and worked in a few. I don't think men who make passes
OregonBlue
Nov 2017
#56
I read the OP as about the empowerment of women. If a woman goes into a cattle market type
Doodley
Nov 2017
#148
I am giving the OP the benefit of the doubt and don't share your interpretation.
Doodley
Nov 2017
#162
Just hope we don't start taking souvenirs every time we have to "grab our coats."
moriah
Nov 2017
#60
Yes. That's what I read in there too. If I wanted a two for one drink I am no longer
Squinch
Nov 2017
#103
It's kind of inevitable. A lot of women are raising their voices about sexual harassment, and
Squinch
Nov 2017
#105
So am I - especially when commenters courageously invite martyrdom for rationalizing
50 Shades Of Blue
Nov 2017
#119
If some powerful old guy invites you to his home, you should assume that is what he is after
yurbud
Nov 2017
#96
GenXer. Only went to a couple of bars, and that was in college w/fellow college students in late 90s
anneboleyn
Nov 2017
#97
Various people I'll not name, concerned I was still a virgin in the later '70 and early '80s...
hunter
Nov 2017
#104
Yes, I did. Other guys asked me a few times where I learned my pick-up lines.
Buckeye_Democrat
Nov 2017
#107
I'm not defending the OP, but I think you may not be understanding his point. I see it as
Doodley
Nov 2017
#149
It's all about context and everyone is reacting to your op based on different
OhioBlue
Nov 2017
#154
A good and well reasoned post. This is they type of common sense I like to read.
Jim Beard
Nov 2017
#156
Not sure who this pertains to but Kevin Spacey's Rod Stewart-impersonating brother
ucrdem
Nov 2017
#164