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In reply to the discussion: She Doesnt Owe Anyone a Hug. Not Even at the Holidays [View all]MineralMan
(146,338 posts)Period. I let the other person initiate. Does that mean I don't get and give lots of hugs? Nope.
Recently, at my brother's memorial service, two of my great nieces, his grandchildren, were there. I haven't seen either of them for several years. They're 15 year old twins. I shook their hands warmly, even though they were big huggers when they were younger.
Later that evening, when they were visiting my parents' house and were about to leave, though, both girls came up and hugged me in a three-way hug. That was nice, but I wasn't about to initiate hugs with two teenaged girls I hadn't seen for a long time.
If you're a guy, let others initiate the hugs. Don't make a big deal of it, but let them make the decision. If you're a nice guy, you'll still get plenty of hugs.