Wedding etiquette poll [View all]

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OK, maybe I'm an old fogey, but I thought I'd put this out there and see what people think.

Here's the situation: my niece is having a formal evening wedding in another state from where we live.
Hubby and my two adult sons and I are attending. I have previously cut off communication with the bride's mother (my brother's wife) over political and other issues. My brother and his wife are Repubs. I have not wanted to go to the wedding, but decided I would suck it up for 'family' sake. I have been asked by the bride to read a poem during the ceremony and agreed.
One of niece's brothers and his wife just had my brother's
first grandchild on July 16th--the new mother/father are attending WITH baby. I saw a fb post
last night where the bride indicated she was working on sit-down dinner seating assignments
and her brother (the new father) asked could new baby have a seat of his own--for car seat--
at the table and could they sit with his wife's family who are attending (also from another state)
and wouldn't that fill the table? Bride responded, "of course baby can have seat" but table seats
two more and she was thinking--but not decided--about putting great-aunt, uncle (me and hubby)
at the table, too. Well, I about fell off my chair. I can understand having the baby at the ceremony
and cocktail hour, but cannot for the life of me understand wanting to impose a 3 week old infant
on a formal sit down wedding dinner. I thought about it overnight and decided to write the bride
a fb message this a.m., diplomatically putting in my $.02 and expressing my reaction that I would
not be thrilled to find myself seated with a 3 week old infant at a formal sit down wedding dinner
and wondering whether anyone was going to suggest brother/wife get a sitter for baby during the dinner
so they could not be focused on baby care all evening?

So, lounge folks, what do you think?

11 votes, 0 passes | Time left: Unlimited
	You were right to express your opinion, but your opinion stinks.
	0 (0%)
	You were right to express your opinion and it was correct (no stinky 3 week old babies at formal evening wedding dinner).
	6 (55%)
	You were wrong to express your opinion, it's the bride's day and you sit where you're told.
	4 (36%)
	You were wrong to express your opinion, even though your opinion is correct, so suck it up.
	0 (0%)
	Why the hell are you going anyway?
	1 (9%)
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