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davidpdx

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10. I'm pretty sure I have read your posts in the past

Reply to diabeticman (Original post)

Mon Mar 24, 2014, 05:27 AM

Mar 2014

I have to go along with what most are saying, don't interfere and let your wife handle it. She has to set the boundaries with her mother.

The one thing I wanted to add is to try not to borrow money from her or lend money to her. Once money is involved people start having leverage over you. With as poor of a relationship there is between you and your wife and her MIL that will only complicate things.

I have a complicated relationship with the few family members I keep in touch with. Granted my solution is to be 7,000 miles away.

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Do I try and repair my wife's relationship with her mother or just leave it. [View all] diabeticman Mar 2014 OP

It's not for you to repair this. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #1

You, too, 'eh? calimary Mar 2014 #14

I am still amazed at how nice it is to have a life partner that is a PARTNER. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #15

I doubt there is anything you can do. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2014 #2

You said it better than I. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #3

This is very good advice and information. mnhtnbb Mar 2014 #9

Just leave it. Iggo Mar 2014 #4

Never let anyone suck you into their lifelong insane family drama. NEVER. alphafemale Mar 2014 #5

No. It's rough but it's not in us or for us to repair other people's L/T fucked-up relationships. Chan790 Mar 2014 #6

Never get between a mother and daughter. femmocrat Mar 2014 #7

Agreed Sherman A1 Mar 2014 #8

I'm pretty sure I have read your posts in the past davidpdx Mar 2014 #10

As long as your wife continues to enable her mother's behaviour, nothing will change. Kaleva Mar 2014 #11

Leave it alone. noamnety Mar 2014 #12

Well, reading through pipi_k Mar 2014 #13