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In reply to the discussion: I need guidance here, not sure if this is the right place? [View all]orleans
(34,051 posts)maybe a police report is in order along with a restraining order?
if things are so hand to mouth you need to figure a way around the situation. is there a possibility this guy will be back? if yes get the restraining order. if not then keep that in mind when you go to work.
you said he tried to attack you--what stopped him, or who? do you have that backup in place? can you get a backup for the future? did you stop him? is he banned from returning or coming into the building?
how prevalent is such an occurrence? what are the odds of it happening again?
thinking these things through might help you get through some of this until you can figure out an alternative.
sometimes, even in the most difficult of situations, we have to continue through them. i had to be at work less than 24 hours after my mom died. it was terrible and i had someone to help me but the following day, and the day after that, i had to work on my own. and then i got a weekend break. it was horrible. i wasn't able to get time off for over six weeks!
if you were guiding someone through the exact same situation you are experiencing, what would you tell them? put your skills to work on yourself.
and when you do maybe you'll be able to hold up/keep it together long enough to find and apply for a different job.
i'd be handing out different advice if you had the luxury of a financial support system. unfortunately not all of us are lucky enough to have that. you don't. neither do i.
don't let this experience break you. you're stronger than you think.