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raptor_rider

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5. Just be there for her.

Reply to ohnoyoudidnt (Original post)

Tue Jul 15, 2014, 08:13 PM

Jul 2014

She needs a friend right now. Listen to her when she talks. Hold her when she cries. No words or actions can take away the pain. Just be a person she can count on.

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Does anyone have tips on consoling a person who has lost a loved one [View all] ohnoyoudidnt Jul 2014 OP

Just stay close. rug Jul 2014 #1

The kindest words sarge43 Jul 2014 #2

and know that they often will not ask for things they need SoCalDem Jul 2014 #15

Don't say, listen LiberalEsto Jul 2014 #3

No. Wait Wut Jul 2014 #4

Just be there for her. raptor_rider Jul 2014 #5

Listen. easttexaslefty Jul 2014 #6

Everybody needs something different. LisaLynne Jul 2014 #7

here's a few suggestions orleans Jul 2014 #8

Thank you! Especially for the best things/worst things to say lists. nt raccoon Jul 2014 #17

Me myself - just have to keep loving my DU/GD/Louners keeping on n/t UTUSN Jul 2014 #9

Be there. Make sure they are taking care of their personal needs. blogslut Jul 2014 #10

I was a grief & trauma counsellor for many years, and used this handout in my work. DeadLetterOffice Jul 2014 #11

this is a wonderful post orleans Jul 2014 #13

Thank you, and it's been posted. DeadLetterOffice Jul 2014 #14

It's helpful for me. lovemydog Jul 2014 #16

they sound like they would all be very appropriate and helpful orleans Jul 2014 #18

Excellent. DeadLetterOffice Jul 2014 #19

Thank you ohnoyoudidnt Jul 2014 #21

The best thing I've learned is to follow their lead. Iggo Jul 2014 #12

For me, its best just to say, I know I can't do anything but be here, but know I am here dr.strangelove Jul 2014 #20