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In reply to the discussion: How do you deal with anger? [View all]

kjones

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4. Anger and adrenaline are weird ones
Mon Jul 13, 2015, 04:39 PM
Jul 2015

They make it so that during the times where the most clarity, control,
and reasoning could be useful, you often have the least.

We're wired for fight or flight as much as any other critter, and it takes
effort to find a third alternative. It's a skill, not a reflex.
Which is one way to deal with it. If you take pride in your ability to
control yourself (and you deserve to), sometimes it makes it an
easier skill to practice and use.

And motorcycles. Whew. Besides the obvious things (which sometimes
don't seem obvious to drivers) of the extreme exposures of riding one is
the mental effect of riding one. One reason for riding one is excitement,
which is another way of saying adrenaline. Whenever I'm on one, I remember
my state of mind, I'm already excited and pumped full of adrenaline, so I'm
already halfway there to a fight or flight moment.
I've made more than enough double u-turns as you have, wheeling around for
a confrontation of some sort before considering my state and doing my best
to forget it.

It's scary on both ends too (having been both victim and perpetrator of such
mistakes). You can at least hope that the fear (as it did for me) motivates them
to consider what just happened. "I could have just killed someone."And now, I will never
back up negligently again.

Some people don't reflect, but I have to hope for the sake of humanity that they
represent a small percentage of the world.

Keep you zen face on!

How do you deal with anger? [View all] Glassunion Jul 2015 OP
It's wonderful that you were able to pull yourself out of that (both the accident and the enough Jul 2015 #1
I honestly don't know how I did it. Glassunion Jul 2015 #8
I simply ask myself if I would act the same way if I waited 5 minutes Major Nikon Jul 2015 #2
Dude, you're a hero, the stuff of legends discntnt_irny_srcsm Jul 2015 #3
Lol! Glassunion Jul 2015 #5
So let me see discntnt_irny_srcsm Jul 2015 #6
Thanks. Glassunion Jul 2015 #7
Thanks for sharing the story discntnt_irny_srcsm Jul 2015 #9
The lady deserved to be scared. lumberjack_jeff Jul 2015 #10
Anger and adrenaline are weird ones kjones Jul 2015 #4
I make it a point to walk away when I'm angry mythology Jul 2015 #11
I know this is kind of an old thread, but I thought I'd respond davidpdx Aug 2015 #12
Consider Sarcasm because... discntnt_irny_srcsm Aug 2015 #13
Sarcasm causes you a lot less grief davidpdx Aug 2015 #14
My daughter had this t-shirt, she's a department manager at a major retail store discntnt_irny_srcsm Aug 2015 #15
Funny, I have one that says davidpdx Aug 2015 #16
Stop yourself jhrobbins Apr 2016 #17
A story to share cleveramerican Aug 2016 #18
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