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In reply to the discussion: How does one flunk 5th grade? [View all]

onpatrol98

(1,989 posts)
12. Hang in there...
Fri Mar 8, 2013, 04:57 PM
Mar 2013

Don't hate the fact that this makes you want to cry. You want to protect your children. Nothing else in the world will ever mean as much as your children...once you have them. It sounds like you're doing the best you know how under the circumstances and you haven't give up. And if they mistake your love for your children and your concern for their well being as weak, then they're the ones who are questionable. Not you. You're the normal one. As administrators, educators, parents, a community, this should make us all want to cry.

After all, they're the professionals. They're trained in their craft. You're your child's advocate. But, realistically, these are the people who are supposed to have information to share with you on how to get things back on track. That's what these meetings are supposed to be about. How do we get things back on track? But, often they're run like liability meetings. "We've told you. Now, we're clear of responsibility."

Is there a possibility that your pediatrician or a doctor, or perhaps someone else can refer you to some one else who can help you and your daughter? It would be great if you could find another school. Sometimes a change can make all the difference in the world. But, sometimes, it's not possible. It would be too late for this semester, anyway. But, a new perspective in a better environment can sometimes be of benefit.

Your family is fortunate to have you in their corner fighting on their behalf. So, hang in there. You're swinging like a champ. If you must cry, just keep one eye open, so you can keep fighting on behalf of your kids.

Good Luck!



How does one flunk 5th grade? [View all] FirstLight Mar 2013 OP
I guess one might, but in this case, TEACHER and SCHOOL flunk. elleng Mar 2013 #1
Put it in writing mainstreetonce Mar 2013 #6
good idea FirstLight Mar 2013 #8
A paper trail is always a good thing. thucythucy Mar 2013 #10
hi d_r Mar 2013 #2
seriously! FirstLight Mar 2013 #4
Hang in there... onpatrol98 Mar 2013 #12
thanks FirstLight Mar 2013 #13
Actually savebigbird Mar 2013 #29
Good advice. proud2BlibKansan Mar 2013 #31
there is a new school going online on May1st....it may be a better option for your daughter. chillfactor Mar 2013 #3
yes, please PM me FirstLight Mar 2013 #7
done...good luck! chillfactor Mar 2013 #17
It is so hard when the teacher blames the child instead of hedgehog Mar 2013 #5
take a witness with you for all meetings, a friend is ok, doesn't need to be a legal advocate.... msongs Mar 2013 #9
I think you are seeing the result of Prop. 13 reteachinwi Mar 2013 #11
I wholeheartedly agree... FirstLight Mar 2013 #14
You have the right to ask the district to evaluate her for a learning disability. MannyGoldstein Mar 2013 #15
holy wow...i didn't even know that link existed! FirstLight Mar 2013 #16
My wife and I help local parents with this stuff MannyGoldstein Mar 2013 #18
What a nice thing for you and your wife to do! Rider3 Mar 2013 #20
Tremendously satisfying work MannyGoldstein Mar 2013 #26
I suspect you and your wife MoclipsHumptulips Mar 2013 #37
This sucks Rider3 Mar 2013 #19
thanks FirstLight Mar 2013 #21
The Principal just called FirstLight Mar 2013 #22
also...you wanna hear "Irony"...? FirstLight Mar 2013 #23
.... OneGrassRoot Mar 2013 #25
Well I sure can relate to you. My step-grandson might have to repeat the year also. southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #24
yikes FirstLight Mar 2013 #27
My son had ADHD the school never told me. I worked at a doctor's office and realized southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #28
ADHD is a medical diagnosis. Schools don't diagnose it. proud2BlibKansan Mar 2013 #32
I did but had their own evaluation team. That is the way they did it. I can only tell you what southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #33
By not coming to school proud2BlibKansan Mar 2013 #30
As a former teacher, I can confirm this TexasBushwhacker Mar 2013 #36
Hang in there, Mom. SEMOVoter Mar 2013 #34
... FirstLight Mar 2013 #35
Update - the plot thickens FirstLight Apr 2013 #38
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