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LadyHawkAZ

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Sat Jun 2, 2012, 06:39 PM

Jun 2012

Thank you for posting this. "Sex-pozi" has become the radfem-PC term for "slut", and it annoys me no end.

The difficulty is that many people mistake enthusiasm for sex with sex positivity. In my view, sex-positivity is the view that the only relevant measure of a sexual act, practice, or experience is the consent, pleasure, and well-being of the people engaged in it or the people affected by it.

Yes. I see a lot of this attitude: "But I like sex! I have a husband/partner/lover and we have GREAT sex, so that means it's OK for me to judge how YOU enjoy sex! Because I don't hate sex!"- no, it doesn't work like that. The idea that consensual adult sexuality is normal and pleasurable no matter what the particular quirks of the people involved- that it is in fact a positive force- that's what makes a person sex-positive. Not just a liking for their particular method.

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Charlie Glickman and Sex Positivity [View all] stevenleser Jun 2012 OP

To me, this informs not just my feminism, but my pro-LGBTIQ rights beliefs stevenleser Jun 2012 #1

Thanks Steven libodem Jun 2012 #2

I dont remember any offense, but same here, hope you have forgiven me as well... stevenleser Jun 2012 #3

Great libodem Jun 2012 #4

Bookmarking this site for further reading LadyHawkAZ Jun 2012 #5

Thank you for your excellent comments stevenleser Jun 2012 #6

Important. And it's important that sex positive individuals not be bullied into silence. Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #7

As I understand sex positivism, I'm probably sex positive to an extreme. Zorra Jun 2012 #8

Well, for one, I highly doubt ANYONE is advocating prostitution of underage people. Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #9

I have this book called Sex in History by Reay Tannahill. Neoma Jun 2012 #10

I think, in some ancient civilizations, it was a religious activity. Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #11

Probably because of STD's. Neoma Jun 2012 #12

rationally, STDs may have been part of the biblical hang ups around sex Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #13

Tricking some arrogant, greasy fool is never a religious experience for any Zorra Jun 2012 #14

I'm just telling you what ive read... Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #15

LOL! You're a real hoot! But... Zorra Jun 2012 #16

No, you're reading WAY too much into it. Warren DeMontague Jun 2012 #17

I think I agree with the way Mr. Glickman puts it: stevenleser Jun 2012 #18

IMO, sex is way overrated. If religions didn't spend so much time and energy repressing Zorra Jun 2012 #19