Love Languages, Feminists in Romantic Relationships & Prostitution

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13. Cooperating vs. using (the way I see it)

Would you kick your partner out if he was suddenly somehow disabled and couldn't do the dishes and vacuuming? I like to think not.

But some relationships do crumble after such incidents.

I think it comes down to an attitude. Are you capitalistic in your personal relationships, or communistic? If we do things for each other not based on some kind of trade off but because we consider each other to be our helpers and keepers, then it's not using, it's cooperating. If, however, we do things for each other because we think we're working some kind of a deal and there are payoffs and such, then that's using and the relationship will likely be jeopardized if the 'trade agreement' is altered.