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Addiction & Recovery

Old Codger

(4,205 posts)

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Reply to Butterbean (Original post)

Fri Aug 16, 2013, 01:17 PM

Aug 2013

Driving him to ameeting won't work unless he asks her to. She needs to take care of her own program whether it is ALANON or a therapist. He has to want to get sober or it won't hqppen, if he wants to get sober he will find time for AA if not he will find exuses...In the extreme case I would tell her to move out or have him move out and seriously consider filing for divorce in a move to possibly show him how serious she is..

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Help for a friend, please? Wife of an alcoholic. [View all] Butterbean Aug 2013 OP

Well Old Codger Aug 2013 #1

Urgh, thank you. This is why I asked here, because I knew I'd Butterbean Aug 2013 #3

OK Old Codger Aug 2013 #5

Okay, I'll pass that on to her as well. So family members are allowed at AA meetings? Butterbean Aug 2013 #6

anyone can attend an open AA meeting NMDemDist2 Aug 2013 #10

Okee doke, thank you. I'll tell her. I doubt she'd attend the same meetings Butterbean Aug 2013 #13

SHE would greatly benefit from Al-Anon dixiegrrrrl Aug 2013 #2

Thank you. I will tell her what you said, and find the locations and times of some Butterbean Aug 2013 #4

Something I always told the family dixiegrrrrl Aug 2013 #7

Sounds like there's no alcohol in that beer. nebenaube Aug 2013 #8

This is self reporting from the alcoholic. This was what he says he drinks every day. n/t Butterbean Aug 2013 #9

hmmm... nebenaube Aug 2013 #11

That's what we were all saying, that we couldn't handle Butterbean Aug 2013 #12

actually NMDemDist2 Aug 2013 #14

Holy CRAP, really? So that much volume is possible? I warned her about Butterbean Aug 2013 #15

unless he's taken a bunch of xanex or something NMDemDist2 Aug 2013 #17

That's what I thought, thank you. Butterbean Aug 2013 #18

This message was self-deleted by its author Old Codger Aug 2013 #16