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Response to Tippy (Reply #9)

Wed Feb 1, 2012, 03:09 AM

27. Oh, man, that really sucks

One day at a time. Or, when it gets really bad, one hour at a time. One thing that has really helped me is reminding myself that enabling the addict is treating them in a disrespectful manner - it's making me the boss of them and a) I suck at it and B) they are the only one who can make this decision I'm trying to take out of their hands and C)I'm slowing down their chance to hit rock bottom because I can't handle it. None of it is as selfless as it seems. When I remember that, I can show him the respect of staying out of his way. As bizarre as it sounds, it's the most loving thing I can do for him. And my recovery is the most loving thing I can do for me.

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