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12. Question about encouragement vs detachment

When my alcoholic brother was drinking heavily a few years ago, it was always felt that the family should encourage his good behaviors. He finally did go into rehab, and with family encouragement, he is doing much better.

My son also is alcoholic. My side of the family encourages his good behaviors, but his wife is seeing a counselor and has been told to detach herself from him and to consider him 'dead'. That by having no contact with him or his kids, he is dead to them until he goes into rehab.

How does this group feel of these two different philosophies?
Thanks.