All are welcome.

[tavalon]

6. Qualifiers

I never heard that term in CoDA but in Nar Anon and Al Anon, I hear people use the term all the time. My point of view is that my qualifier (even if I have one that matches the definition) is that my butt is sitting in that seat in that meeting.

I guess that's why, as my issues directly surrounding the addict begin to abate, I see so much of my behavior that has become unhealthy and I'm starting to look back to CoDA, because I don't feel like having every share I share, start with how I'm coping with the addict. I'm coping and healing from that trauma, but it uncovered a whole nest of unhealthy behaviors that retook up residence when I decided to take over the driving of my own life, sans higher power. It took the addict for me to finally drive the car off the cliff, but I was headed there, albeit slower and more clandestine.