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Mental Health Support

elleng

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17. None of this allocation on your part should be necessary,

Reply to angstlessk (Reply #13)

Thu Mar 6, 2014, 02:07 AM

Mar 2014

but a court, should one become involved, will appreciate your kind gesture. He should NOT keep all the money you have saved.

As to social security, that may not be up to you, but up to Social Security. In my opinion, you need not provide anything for him. I would not plan on any kind of continuing relationship with him, considering his drinking (and drugging, if he does so.) His instability sounds permanent to me. (I don't know, of course, I'm just a lawyer.)

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The man I live with has become a MONSTER [View all] angstlessk Mar 2014 OP

I hope you go to a shelter tonight if you can get away. ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #1

Agreed and leave as soon as safely possible MindMover Mar 2014 #3

My 'good life' would be in a cloister nunery... angstlessk Mar 2014 #5

Ya know about 20 years ago..I did go to a women's shelter because of him angstlessk Mar 2014 #7

He also needs help, ZombieHorde Mar 2014 #10

From what you said in this post and your other one, JoeyT Mar 2014 #2

I have saved all the women's shelters in Detroit angstlessk Mar 2014 #4

The homeless shelter I volunteered for A Little Weird Mar 2014 #12

Excellent and pertinent information, ALW. Feral Child Mar 2014 #19

There is nothing you can do about the man you live with. Hell Hath No Fury Mar 2014 #6

It is an emergency,..thanks for saying that.. angstlessk Mar 2014 #8

It is an emergency. Hell Hath No Fury Mar 2014 #11

Thank you...he is up...so I will wait till tomorrow angstlessk Mar 2014 #14

But an emergency when he is not here.. angstlessk Mar 2014 #9

Ya know I don't hate him..I just wish he were not a monster angstlessk Mar 2014 #13

You shouldn't have to go through this A Little Weird Mar 2014 #16

None of this allocation on your part should be necessary, elleng Mar 2014 #17

Don't make any decisions or commitments about dividing assets right now. winter is coming Mar 2014 #18

I don't mean to be negative Feral Child Mar 2014 #20

Leave immediately. Not later. Not tomorrow. Not in a week. Now. Gravitycollapse Mar 2014 #15

As a former DV counselor, I can tell you that this is not a matter of IF he will do something... it secondwind Mar 2014 #21

I hope you've gotten away from this terrible situation. Terra Alta Mar 2014 #22