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Sun Dec 9, 2018, 06:40 PM

16. Wait. The therapist is telling you to divorce him instead of ordering a psychiatric hold on him?

 

Edit: Already stated by others, get in contact with the old therapist and find out how much prior information made the transition to the new therapist. They may not be working with your husband with a complete picture of his care needs.

I don't have any background on you or your husband so pardon my ignorance. It sounds like as far as the hotel is concerned he's there as a guest, not part of the crew working on renovation. If that's true, get in touch with your husband's boss (if your husband isn't self-employed or retired) and the hotel manager, get statements and contact info from both of them stating clearly your husband is NOT in charge of renovation there or even involved, and present that to the therapist. If they're smart, they'll order your husband into a psychiatric hold immediately. If they're not, they're putting themselves in civil/legal jeopardy and at risk of losing their license. If an incident occurs at the hotel, and you've already put it on record with all parties that your husband shouldn't be there involving himself, the therapist's name WILL be included in the police report and s/he'll be on-record as having been told there was a problem and not having done anything about it.

I had a housemate who's Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde game was on-point. He could present as absolutely charming and funny and polite to a fault, but it was a ruse. He was an abusive motherfucker that treated his live-in girlfriend like shit and made life hell for myself and the other housemate as well as the landlord. He was attending court-ordered counseling which the girlfriend went with him and this joker was fooled, had no idea what she and us others saw when this asshole was home behind closed doors. He even had his parole officer fooled.

Your husband isn't violent or abusive, else you would have said, so my point is people such as your husband and my former housemate can somehow manage to deceive the right people, intentionally or not, to avoid getting the treatment they absolutely need.

It sounds like if your husband interferes with hotel or construction staff, he is on a fast-track to getting the cops called on him. If you can't get your therapist to take this seriously (Um, divorce? What?) then you need to speak with the hotel manager to head-off disaster. If all parties understand he's in a bipolar delusional state, they may be able to coordinate an welfare intervention with the police to get your husband into proper psychological care without any kind of arrest.

Something needs to be done, this situation is untenable. Waiting for something to happen isn't a good course of action, you need to be proactive for your husband's sake. The therapist needs to made to do something more than tell you to divorce him (Um, WHAT?). Your word and pleading appears to be not enough, so getting statements from others seeing this behavior may be necessary.

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