My evangelical cousin is at death's door.

[TigressDem]

85. OH my. How are you doing?

Thanks for having the courage to start this conversation.

I always say my best conversations about religion are with agnostics and atheists because understanding that side of it helps me clarify things for myself.

But grief is hard sometimes if you have been close with someone or at odds. With my Mom it was both.

Sometimes the relief that someone you knew and cared for is no longer in pain helps ease the loss quite a bit.

Everyone has their process.

A therapist suggested something I thought was bonkers at the time: A pocket full of rocks walk.

?WHAT?!

The theory is that our mind is multi-sensory, so if we have problems of any kind that are hard to stop thinking about and let go, take a walk and pick up stones to feel the weight of the thoughts physically and then toss them in a lake or river to feel yourself getting rid of them. It worked for me and it was kind of fun anyway. Always can use creative exercise, so win/win/win.