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hlthe2b

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51. There are a handful of posters I just refuse to engage with.. While I don't use ignore, I DO tell
Mon Jun 18, 2012, 09:24 PM
Jun 2012

them that I will not be engaging them and why. I just have had it with some whose behavior/attitude never changes from a highly disingenuous or unnecessarily antagonistic pattern. If they are among those who tend to come in as a "group" and those "pals" come in to attack me I do the same with them. I have to think this might nip some of this crap in the bud, but time will tell.

I just hate that some have been able to promote the impression (among the uninitiated or more casual DUers) that HOF is THE problem. I'd like to find some way to defeat this tactic that deflects against the blatant misogyny by painting HOF and its members in a negative light and as THE problem.

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Poll ~ Group Input ~ Please [View all] boston bean Jun 2012 OP
sorry, i truly feel and always have. if i do not speak out i am part of the problem. seabeyond Jun 2012 #1
I'll always alert on sexist posts. I won't always take the bait though. sufrommich Jun 2012 #2
I won't always take the bait though. seabeyond Jun 2012 #3
Sea, there are posts I read that I know sufrommich Jun 2012 #6
you are right. it is obvious. seabeyond Jun 2012 #11
What you say is true. Today I became the third musketeer boston bean Jun 2012 #4
Hey, wear it like you're proud! nt sufrommich Jun 2012 #7
It certainly isn't subtle either. It's blatant in your face harassment/bullying. Little Star Jun 2012 #8
It's bullying, plain and simple seabeyond Jun 2012 #12
yes, it is. hlthe2b Jun 2012 #52
There are a handful of posters I just refuse to engage with.. While I don't use ignore, I DO tell hlthe2b Jun 2012 #51
no clue what this is really about chknltl Jun 2012 #5
True, everybody should do what they see sufrommich Jun 2012 #9
True, but when you got the gang going on you boston bean Jun 2012 #13
I think the best thing to do is stick to your guns as to why sufrommich Jun 2012 #15
Yeah, I can let myself stoop to their level sometimes boston bean Jun 2012 #17
"Really none of it has worked for me. " sufrommich Jun 2012 #19
True. boston bean Jun 2012 #21
you were holding your own seabeyond Jun 2012 #18
"hubby had to cut babies nails and take them in for shots" sufrommich Jun 2012 #22
You know something boston bean Jun 2012 #24
well.... seabeyond Jun 2012 #26
Lol, too funny, I guess it's more common than we thought. nt sufrommich Jun 2012 #28
just like last year my son was 15 and we were sittin in dr room waiting for a shot seabeyond Jun 2012 #25
Sea, if it's a punture wound he needs to go to the er. Hatchling Jun 2012 #39
he was current on the tetnus. dad took him. they stitched him. four stitches. seabeyond Jun 2012 #40
there is a lot of insider. but, i am glad to see a poster outside the group weigh in. i think YOUR seabeyond Jun 2012 #14
thanks. its sorta like the neighbors next door having a fight... chknltl Jun 2012 #54
lol. how about if we dont worry about it and you just get to say what you want to say seabeyond Jun 2012 #55
I dunno, is this germain?: chknltl Jun 2012 #56
Forgot to say Rec!!! Good poll. Little Star Jun 2012 #10
I don't think failed alerts will help much, redqueen Jun 2012 #16
I really do NOT alert a lot boston bean Jun 2012 #20
I agree. nt sufrommich Jun 2012 #23
Speaking of alerts... sufrommich Jun 2012 #27
I have no idea. There have been glitches in the past boston bean Jun 2012 #29
That makes sense. nt sufrommich Jun 2012 #30
That looks like a jury bug Elad's been trying to track down for at least a month. laconicsax Jun 2012 #33
ah ha! Thanks lac! boston bean Jun 2012 #35
Thanks, that makes sense. nt sufrommich Jun 2012 #36
None of the options stand out individually. laconicsax Jun 2012 #31
i am glad you posted. i was wondering seabeyond Jun 2012 #32
Don't apologize to us laconicsax sufrommich Jun 2012 #34
I was just going to say that... redqueen Jun 2012 #37
yep boston bean Jun 2012 #38
Yep MadrasT Jun 2012 #42
This: CrispyQ Jun 2012 #85
Here's how I see it MadrasT Jun 2012 #41
+1. ya ya, and sometimes i battle long and hard seabeyond Jun 2012 #45
I agree with so much of what you've posted. sufrommich Jun 2012 #50
Wow.. great poll, but something I'm still really struggling with... hlthe2b Jun 2012 #43
Yeah... MadrasT Jun 2012 #46
Try to convince the admins to include Sexism and Misogyny explicitly in the TOS was.. Little Star Jun 2012 #60
They don't care. laconicsax Jun 2012 #65
I truly hope your wrong.... Little Star Jun 2012 #67
I hope I'm wrong too. laconicsax Jun 2012 #69
I hope it is not something as grotesquely "pragmatic" as .... hlthe2b Jun 2012 #70
Other. I can't respond. Hatchling Jun 2012 #44
No need to feel guilty, redqueen Jun 2012 #47
hey seabeyond Jun 2012 #48
Don't beat yourself up,Hatchling. People respond sufrommich Jun 2012 #49
Dear Hatchling MadrasT Jun 2012 #53
I'd like to welcome Pon to DU! laconicsax Jun 2012 #57
You noticed that too.... hlthe2b Jun 2012 #58
??? clueless. nt seabeyond Jun 2012 #59
Click on the user names for the poll. nt sufrommich Jun 2012 #61
gotcha. thanks.... nt seabeyond Jun 2012 #62
. seabeyond Jun 2012 #63
This must be a new type of troll..... Little Star Jun 2012 #64
right, thats it for me redqueen Jun 2012 #66
wha????? seabeyond Jun 2012 #68
I'd guess it's partly due to the bullshit in this meta thread: laconicsax Jun 2012 #71
ah. i see. i didnt even bother with that one once i saw the direction it was going. seabeyond Jun 2012 #72
The alerts on you are fucking insane! Texasgal Jun 2012 #75
zombie wrote this. i am keeping. i almost started a thread with it in meta seabeyond Jun 2012 #76
Not sure what good it would do.. Texasgal Jun 2012 #77
more for a laugh than a point. seabeyond Jun 2012 #78
That's what bullies do. n/t laconicsax Jun 2012 #81
My condolences, redqueen. BlueIris Jun 2012 #80
You Women are amazing! Texasgal Jun 2012 #73
i will tell you what i cannot allow. i cannot allow ANYONE to be judge off what i type. it is mine seabeyond Jun 2012 #74
All I can think to do is continue to respond where appropriate. BlueIris Jun 2012 #79
Don't waste the energy ManyShadesOf Jun 2012 #82
i tend to agree. i will support what the others want. but, i agree with you. nt seabeyond Jun 2012 #83
I'm starting to agree with #4, as the only way to make it stop. wildflower Jun 2012 #84
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