A lovely read with pics - Alexis Ohanian Challenges Paternity Leave 'Stigma': 'Men Are Conditioned

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7. I see no stigma in being a care giver as a man.

I would have loved to have been able to stay home and bond and provide care for my children. In my family of origin I was criticized heavily for changing diapers and feeding my eldest son with members of the family saying, "Why are you doing a woman's work?" I always responded, "This isn't woman's work, it is a good parent's job".

We are conditioned to be breadwinners, and often obligated to do so by society. I had and have no worries whatsoever about "my career" I work in a field that is dominated by women and likely considered to be a "woman's role" as a social worker. The problem is there was no way in hell that I could take 16 weeks off of my job, even if I were legally allowed to. I mean if I still had my full salary for that time and guaranteed position, then I would take it in a heartbeat.

I am glad that this gentleman with a large platform is taking a positive stance for men being involved in the caring and bonding with their children. It is a good thing. I hope that he uses the platform to advocate for policy that would allow it to become a financial reality.