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In reply to the discussion: I hated being pregnant. [View all]LeftInTX
(25,328 posts)74. Another thing about Amy's un empathetic, tone deaf, adoption comment:
Most single moms now keep their babies.
The pro-life people got rid of the single parent, social stigma.
My niece had her first when she was 16.
Her parents were pro-choice, they didn't pressure her either way.
My beautiful, highly intelligent niece attended an upscale HS in the Chicago suburbs.
Despite her parents being lower-end millionaires, my niece qualified for social services because she was single and pregnant. (But this is Illinois, not some redneck southern state)
She kept her baby
My brother and his wife were extremely supportive and helpful and treated their granddaughter as their own.
My niece never went to college
She became a beautician
In 2018, she married briefly, moved to another state and became pregnant again.
By the time she had the baby, she had split from husband and was going through a divorce.
A month later her, her mom was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer, so her parents could not help with this child.
Niece could not take care of her newborn on her own and moved back home. This time her parents were in Texas and baby's father is is in another state.
Her ex got her new baby.
Her mom died last year
Now, she's messed up
She puts suicidal posts on Facebook from time to time.
(If I would have gotten pregnant in HS, I don't know WTF my parents would have done, but it would not have been pretty. Pretty sure I would have been "sent away" and then been grounded for life afterward)
I hear where people are coming from with the adoption issue, mainly because there is a shortage of newborn infants available for couples who have fertility issues. (Two of my cousins adopted their children because they couldn't get pregnant) However, as a justice, ACB never should have made that comment.
But the fact is Amy: Most single moms who go through pregnancy keep their babies.
The pro-life people got rid of the single parent, social stigma.
My niece had her first when she was 16.
Her parents were pro-choice, they didn't pressure her either way.
My beautiful, highly intelligent niece attended an upscale HS in the Chicago suburbs.
Despite her parents being lower-end millionaires, my niece qualified for social services because she was single and pregnant. (But this is Illinois, not some redneck southern state)
She kept her baby
My brother and his wife were extremely supportive and helpful and treated their granddaughter as their own.
My niece never went to college
She became a beautician
In 2018, she married briefly, moved to another state and became pregnant again.
By the time she had the baby, she had split from husband and was going through a divorce.
A month later her, her mom was diagnosed with an aggressive cancer, so her parents could not help with this child.
Niece could not take care of her newborn on her own and moved back home. This time her parents were in Texas and baby's father is is in another state.
Her ex got her new baby.
Her mom died last year
Now, she's messed up
She puts suicidal posts on Facebook from time to time.
(If I would have gotten pregnant in HS, I don't know WTF my parents would have done, but it would not have been pretty. Pretty sure I would have been "sent away" and then been grounded for life afterward)
I hear where people are coming from with the adoption issue, mainly because there is a shortage of newborn infants available for couples who have fertility issues. (Two of my cousins adopted their children because they couldn't get pregnant) However, as a justice, ACB never should have made that comment.
But the fact is Amy: Most single moms who go through pregnancy keep their babies.
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Until they can carry a baby for 9 months, all these old white moralists should just shut their
ratchiweenie
Dec 2021
#3
They belive in choice when they refuse to wear masks or get vaccinated, which affects all of us.
ratchiweenie
Dec 2021
#31
The thing that motivated me was the "eye on the prize" at the end of nine months!
LeftInTX
Dec 2021
#25
She was mature, married, financially stable, and had incredible community support.
SharonAnn
Dec 2021
#69
A story like this would make an excellent letter to the editor! So many people have a simplistic
JudyM
Dec 2021
#9
Your pregnancies sound, sadly enough, like mine. Sick as a dog, emergency deliveries, etc.
Shrike47
Dec 2021
#17