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Meowmee

(5,164 posts)
28. That aid does not apply to the vast majority
Sat Jan 15, 2022, 05:02 AM
Jan 2022

And it would be a pittance compared to what you really need for someone you are caring for who became a complete invalid like my father after the hospital infected him with covid eventually leading to his murder. Here you will be bankrupted by these scam artists if you need to go on medicaid to get care and it can not be at home. If you have not set up a protected trust in advance.

Unfortunately every agency we dealt with were scams and or incompetent/ negligent and many also were criminals. The first hospital and supposed sub acute care gave him stage 3 pressure sores which turned into stage 4 under their supposed home care. Neglect and abuse is rampant, and that was one of the lesser things that happened if you can believe it.

I was trying to set up hospice at one point and found out they would be paid huge sums of money per week by medicare but would do absolutely pretty much nothing to help. No guarantee they would be available when you really needed them or at all. The only care provided would be someone to give a bath once per week. Basically they were just dropping off opiates, if they did that, and other than that you are on your own. Many bad reviews and the coordinator said that happened to her cousin as well.

I am sorry you went through all of that at such a young age.

Thank you so much for posting this. I am not surprised by the findings at all. niyad Jan 2022 #1
Do we always? That promise of free rent in exchange for never abandoning the survivor Backseat Driver Jan 2022 #32
A relative gave up ten years of his life. shrike3 Jan 2022 #44
My husband and I just spent eight years, FalloutShelter Jan 2022 #2
I hear you. tosh Jan 2022 #13
You are a good-hearted person, sheshe2. I hope spooky3 Jan 2022 #3
I cared for my mother who had Alzheimers for many years Poiuyt Jan 2022 #4
I've spent most of my life as an unpaid caregiver... First Speaker Jan 2022 #5
I took care of my husband when he MerryBlooms Jan 2022 #6
I love you. sheshe2 Jan 2022 #7
How about a society Meowmee Jan 2022 #8
Wouldn't that be amazing? ShazzieB Jan 2022 #14
Yep Meowmee Jan 2022 #27
I have seen at least in NYC ads I believe from... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #21
That aid does not apply to the vast majority Meowmee Jan 2022 #28
Woah, you and your father went through terrible... electric_blue68 Jan 2022 #30
Yw Meowmee Jan 2022 #45
In a sane and just world. . . niyad Jan 2022 #35
I am a caregiver for my husband who had a stroke 5 years ago and my adult son who was born disabled. onecaliberal Jan 2022 #9
I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 Jan 2022 #34
I've been there. Sorry. shrike3 Jan 2022 #43
My brother and I took care of our father Raine Jan 2022 #10
Infant son with disabilities DUgosh Jan 2022 #11
You and your partner have made a difference in the lives of others for so many years. Kaleva Jan 2022 #29
littlemissmartypants Jan 2022 #12
All of you are angels on Earth. Please take care of your own selves as best you can. Hekate Jan 2022 #15
This is discouraging reading for many, including me, since I spent a lot of years on highplainsdem Jan 2022 #16
Boy - I honestly don't know that I could do cilla4progress Jan 2022 #17
It can be simple necessity. I would never have chosen to be a caregiver. highplainsdem Jan 2022 #19
Caregivers top my list of society's most valuable individuals. nt oasis Jan 2022 #18
That doesn't surprise me TrogL Jan 2022 #20
My first reaction leighbythesea2 Jan 2022 #22
We take care of my mother and live with her. Stress is off the chart! 7wo7rees Jan 2022 #23
I know it's hard. But building up your own strength always helps. highplainsdem Jan 2022 #25
Thanks. There really are no words for what is really like. 7wo7rees Jan 2022 #26
I'm so sorry. My SD had to take care of her mother, because her sibling wouldn't. shrike3 Jan 2022 #42
K&R betsuni Jan 2022 #24
Two doctors told me years ago that for the sake of my own health, I'd be better off w/o my wife. Kaleva Jan 2022 #31
I hope this study is replicated and gets a LOT of attention. Hortensis Jan 2022 #33
Thank you for the link to President Biden's plan, and for the reminder about Hillary's niyad Jan 2022 #36
It certainly should be a priority for those Hortensis Jan 2022 #38
Yes, the old taking care of the very old, at a time when their own health issues emerge. shrike3 Jan 2022 #40
We have told our kids to put us in a home if needed mainer Jan 2022 #37
Yes, I plan to make a pre-emptive strike and put myself in one shrike3 Jan 2022 #41
A local teacher retired so she could take care of her mom. shrike3 Jan 2022 #39
Any stressful job will shorten your life! That's why I retired Emile Jan 2022 #46
This is one reason assisted suicide and euthanasia are important issues madville Jan 2022 #47
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