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In reply to the discussion: Stop Telling Women How to Not Get Raped [View all]Tansy_Gold
(17,860 posts)It still leaves open a defense of "She said 'no' but I thought it was just part of an enthusiastic game she was playing." And a woman can be enthusiastic through foreplay and then suddenly decide she doesn't want to go through with it; does her "enthusiasm" override her right to say no at the last minute?
Inventing or changing language is far more difficult than using the language we already have. Besides, it won't counter the existing propaganda that says women are fair game, men's sexual desires override women's integrity.
NO MEANS NO is really simple to understand, but we need a cultural change so that advertising and movies and music and everything returns ownership of women's bodies to themselves.
Otherwise, if we go along with this "You shouldn't go there, you shouldn't wear that, or you'll be sorry and it'll be your fault " kind of restrictions on women's behavior, we're essentially saying men are NOT responsible, can't be trusted, can't be trained, and yet we're letting them be in charge and make the rules!!
For further reading --
http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2010/07/10/anti-rape-campaign-for-once-tells-men-not-to-rape/
http://mystrength.org/5.0.html
http://www.xojane.com/relationships/rape-campaign-finally-admits-men-have-something-do-it