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In reply to the discussion: The Robert Cray song, Right Next Door (Because of Me); Is it about a rapist? [View all]Tsiyu
(18,186 posts)Your OP was asking if being a "Strong persuader" means the guy is a rapist. Was it not?
In essence, by going off the deep end by saying things like "Golly gee! Just asking if she want to have sex is rape now!!!" you demean and minimize the seriousness of rape.
And there are many of us who were molested - not a pass for anyone - nor was it the reason I asked the question. I asked it of the two self-avowed rapists - even in PMs - but they wouldn't answer. Thank YOU for having the courage to do so.
Now, I understand that we must once and for all define what rape is and what it is not. I have no problem discussing what the difference is between coercion and persuasion and seduction, and contrary to popular belief, lots of women initiate sex and most I know enjoy consensual sex, so, no I don't think "all men are potential rapists" or any bullshit like that.
But I think your OP was a very stupid, juvenile way to discuss this issue.
I still like you, though